Okay, one more

[beatniknight]

I've got this intense fear of compliments.  Because I always want to respond to them with a, "You too."  I don't like the idea of just taking a compliment, mainly because the "you too" is so expected.  So my exclusion of it makes it, I think, pointed.  It's like if someone says, "Nice shirt," and you just say, "Thanks," what you've basically just

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[raptorboy]

Ok, so I'm learning that the overanalyzing social interactions is normal for you. Mental note.........complete.

This is one I hate though. Compliments make me feel akward.

[beatniknight]

I remember ("I remember," like it was longer than two months ago), when I was in writing studios and people would say that they liked something I'd written, and I would kind of be like, well, that doesn't actually help me any. Just let me know what you don't like, and I'll assume that everything else is okay.

[beatniknight]

It's true. I'm so totally against compliments.

[xxhistrionicxx]

I think completely differently than you. When I give someone a compliment, i by no means expect one in return. If i tell someone that I really like their shirt....that's all it is. I like the shirt and I am letting them know

[beatniknight]

Well, my mother always taught me that if she said something nice to you, you'd best come up with something nice to say back. Otherwise you're a heartless and uncaring bastard just like you're father, and that's why he went off and married some woman fifteen years younger than he is, leaving me here to raise his bastard ungrateful son who doesn't deserve my compliments. And would it kill him to send some child support every now and then? Ask him that, the next time he calls.

I'm sorry, what was I saying. I just meant, she never taught me what your mother taught you.

I'm against refusing compliments, but I also think that just saying "thank you," is rude. It's like saying, "I know."

[xxhistrionicxx]

we'll that may be true....but I find confidence and self-assuredness very attractive. If someone is attractive...most likely they already know it. If you like someone's shirt....they obviously liked it too or else they wouldn't have purchased it.

I don't think it's snobby to just say thank you, but then again....many people would probably consider my family a little on the snobby side. lol

[hill_the_khore]

I don't see how saying thank you in any case is snotty unless you've just been called a whore or something and you say "thank you" in a smart-alecky way. I'm with you on this. The best way to make someone feel good after they've given you an honest compliment is to let them know that it's resonated; throwing another one back just implies you weren't listening to what's already been said.

[zedinbed]

See, I'm the opposite way. If you complement me, I'll hug you. We're equal. :p

As for complimenting others, if I like something super about you I'll point it out and not because I'm expecting reciprocation. :)

[beatniknight]

Hugging could actually be just the answer I've been looking for. Thanks. You're brilliant.

(Didja like that ploy to get a hug? Pretty sly, huh?)

[beatniknight]

Nah, that just sounds like a very diplomatic way of saying, "I know." It's like something a debutante would say.