at a loss

[beau_ryter]

I don't know what i'm supposed to do. what is right for me. who really knows what is right for you. except yourself

Comments

[justmac]

Poor poor Ryan. :( I feel for you 100%. It is so apparent through your writing that you hurt. I know when I was in a similar situation; the exposure is what always tore me apart. I would try to act happy around my ex... try to make him my friend and in a sense, make him like me again. He said there was a chance, but it was something he told me because he felt guilty and didn't want to lose me completely. I was a mess. I wanted to spend as much time with him as possible... help him with everything, taking him to dinner, driving him places... anything. Then he finally just started blowing me off. He saw me as never moving on, never getting over him with things the way they were going...

Fast forward to today... we talk and are friends. I am finally living the way I once was. It took friends, strength, and a positive outlook. Not all was lost.

You can talk to me if you need it...regardless.

ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with

[ofarandomnature]

As to the title, that Buzzcocks song is quite priceless.

How long did you go out with Dave? Divide that by four and that is your "acceptable grieving time" in my book, but who gives a shit about that. You are progressing, because you are admitting what you are doing. You can say it. And you loved this guy, take your time to get over him. The most important person in your life is YOU. (Either that... or Jesus. Whatever.) Don't forget that!

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[anonymous]

Let go and leave it behind.

Move on hun, you deserve that much.

Remember all that good advice you gave your friends when we broke up? When you were the smart, sensible, knowledgable one? Take it. It'll help.

-Tony

[justmac]

I do not think it is fair to tell Ryan to "let go" and "leave it behind." We each have a unique understanding to what 'it' is. The best thing for him to do is be realistic and do what he feels is right. We can be good people to stand behind him, or Dave if they need help with anything. *shrug* just my thought on it all.

[midgetspawn]

I totally agree with you justmac person, haha sorry don't know your name but I am going to take a wild guess that its Mac. Its always the best way to go with your gut feeling.

[xdisturbed18x]

I agree too. It doenst help to tell someone what they should do. They have to do what feels right to them. hopefully that should make things all better in the end :)