I'm really glad you posted this; I have more guy friends than girl friends, and some guys DO care about their appearance just as must as some girls do. It's nice to focus on the flip side for once.
"I hate abs and facial hair and broad shoulders and blue eyes" And I LOVE all these things in a guy (appearance-wise)--it's interesting to see that my type is your exact opposite!!! Just goes to show that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
My boyfriend is the world's worst. He's like "You don't like my moustache/perpetual 5 O'clock shadow" and mopes around. Which is true, I don't!! But then I'm like "My love for you outshines your moustache." And it does!! But he's always asking me "Does this look good on me?" He's very concerned about his appearance. I've dated a wide range of guys though (okay 5 in my entire lifetime, but their appearances varied a lot!) Except I don't think any of them had defined abs...Except for my first boyfriend but that was only because he didn't eat anything, ever and had like NO bodyfat. He was also sick in the head, so good thing that's over.
I'm just as bad though ~_~;; I wish I looked like Morrigan. Nevermind she's not real, but if I were able to choose a body for myself, I would like to be volumptuous like that.
I think you should write more about your boyfriend; it may be an eye-opener to some who think only girls are self-conscious about their appearance
My recent ex had well-defined abs because he worked out a lot, but he was one of the most self-absorbed people I know. I couldn't put up with that crap after a while.
And I agree, the character Morrigan is great!! I like her thick legs the best!! ^_^ There is also a celtic warrior/shapeshifter goddess named Morrigan, in case you're interested lol.
Interesting point, especially as I was talking about this subject with my own boyfriend last night.
I am usually extremely blank to noticing the beauty of men ~ it is actually very, very rare that I find any man attractive just going by physical appearance alone - when I get to more more of what they're like inside I become either attracted to them as a whole and find them physically attractve as well, or it goes the other way.
Women, on the other hand, I just usually tell instantly if I find them beautiful or not... Hmmm, weird..
With me, I do find girls initially more attractive than guys in general. But that is in general. And that doesn't mean that I find many people beautiful, but I don't feel that being insanely attractive is all that necessary.
And when I get to know a person, my opinion of the person's looks becomes biased. If I like the person, I tend to ignore their flaws more and when a person is annoying or has what I find to be an ugly or inferior (to what? It's hard to explain) personality, their physical flaws will stand out more. How people view various subjects, themselves, and how they take care of themselves is just part of their "personality" to me.
I don't think anyone can truly be beautiful to me unless I have a personal connection with them. When I was younger, yes maybe. Now, no way. And perhaps that's the best way to be :D
At the same time I worry about my own appearance...ohhhnooo~
I don't think anyone can truly be beautiful to me unless I have a personal connection with them. When I was younger, yes maybe. Now, no way. And perhaps that's the best way to be :D
I can recognize that a stranger is physically attractive. I think to myself, "kudos to them" and go on with whatever I was doing. I also recognize that some people that I may care for a whole lot aren't beautiful looking, but like I said, I don't believe that being exceptionally attractive isn't necessary for everyone.
I assume that you're talking about inner beauty as well in, "I don't think anyone can truly be beautiful to me unless I have a personal connection with them." I don't agree with that though. I don't believe that a person needs the legitimacy of being known and liked by me in order for me to recognize/see/understand that he/she is physically attractive.
I don't think it's fair to discredit or ignore someone's good looks because i don't know them or don't like his/her personality. Just because I don't like the person, that doesn't mean that the person is bad or ugly inside. So physical flaws stand out easier if I don't like the person, it doesn't mean that they aren't still attractive and I can't recognize that.
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"I hate abs and facial hair and broad shoulders and blue eyes"
And I LOVE all these things in a guy (appearance-wise)--it's interesting to see that my type is your exact opposite!!! Just goes to show that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
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My boyfriend is the world's worst. He's like "You don't like my moustache/perpetual 5 O'clock shadow" and mopes around. Which is true, I don't!! But then I'm like "My love for you outshines your moustache." And it does!! But he's always asking me "Does this look good on me?" He's very concerned about his appearance. I've dated a wide range of guys though (okay 5 in my entire lifetime, but their appearances varied a lot!) Except I don't think any of them had defined abs...Except for my first boyfriend but that was only because he didn't eat anything, ever and had like NO bodyfat. He was also sick in the head, so good thing that's over.
I'm just as bad though ~_~;; I wish I looked like Morrigan. Nevermind she's not real, but if I were able to choose a body for myself, I would like to be volumptuous like that.
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My recent ex had well-defined abs because he worked out a lot, but he was one of the most self-absorbed people I know. I couldn't put up with that crap after a while.
And I agree, the character Morrigan is great!! I like her thick legs the best!! ^_^ There is also a celtic warrior/shapeshifter goddess named Morrigan, in case you're interested lol.
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Interesting point, especially as I was talking about this subject with my own boyfriend last night.
I am usually extremely blank to noticing the beauty of men ~ it is actually very, very rare that I find any man attractive just going by physical appearance alone - when I get to more more of what they're like inside I become either attracted to them as a whole and find them physically attractve as well, or it goes the other way.
Women, on the other hand, I just usually tell instantly if I find them beautiful or not... Hmmm, weird..
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And when I get to know a person, my opinion of the person's looks becomes biased. If I like the person, I tend to ignore their flaws more and when a person is annoying or has what I find to be an ugly or inferior (to what? It's hard to explain) personality, their physical flaws will stand out more. How people view various subjects, themselves, and how they take care of themselves is just part of their "personality" to me.
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I don't think anyone can truly be beautiful to me unless I have a personal connection with them. When I was younger, yes maybe. Now, no way. And perhaps that's the best way to be :D
At the same time I worry about my own appearance...ohhhnooo~
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That IS the best way to be :)
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I assume that you're talking about inner beauty as well in, "I don't think anyone can truly be beautiful to me unless I have a personal connection with them." I don't agree with that though. I don't believe that a person needs the legitimacy of being known and liked by me in order for me to recognize/see/understand that he/she is physically attractive.
I don't think it's fair to discredit or ignore someone's good looks because i don't know them or don't like his/her personality. Just because I don't like the person, that doesn't mean that the person is bad or ugly inside. So physical flaws stand out easier if I don't like the person, it doesn't mean that they aren't still attractive and I can't recognize that.
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