You make a good point actually. I think that's the way it is for me. I lost a group of friends I'd been with for years and it was devastating. I went through such horrible depression because of it, blaming myself, rah rah rah (they weren't blameless though).
But I had Live Journal, and I had friends through that who, while I had never met them, cared about me more than the ones I'd lost ever seemed to.
It's not just LJ though for me. It's other places, message forums mainly. I've had the same friends for years, since 2002, and while we've grown apart a little bit, we still chat. And in 2005 I met some fantastic people I've kept in contact with, and even met in person.
I guess for me, it fills a void, because yes, I am a very lonely person, who needs friends who are on the same wavelength as me. And I've found them through LJ/the internet.
I personally find it very difficult to meet people on the same wavelength. I have met plenty of people through the 'net in various forms though, I just see it as a tool. But that's part of who I am; I blur my own lines of reality, sometimes to my benefit and sometimes to my detriment.
I don't think it makes you a sad individual at all, didn't mean to imply in any way that you were or that this post was in any way negative.
As much as I'd love to continue this philosophical discussion, I fear that if we do continue it I will A) be up for a few hours and B) take the laptop to the living room and play Zelda in between responses. :P
So for the sake of work in the morning, I'll chat to you soon. :)
I stopped journalling because a) my computer broke and b) I got caught up in my own life and enjoying it and stuff and basically spent five minutes on my computer, compared to the usual five hours.
I think validation is correct but I think I use it to write about stuff I don't feel comfortable speaking about, or can't find the words to explain.
Friendship is a two way street, don't feel like YOU neglected anyone cuz it was probly a two person job. Unless you told someone to fuck off and not speak to you ever again but I can't reeeeeeeally see that happening :)
Ok, you're right, I can't really see me saying that either. But two way streets have to be walked by both peoples, so I can still blame lethargy first.
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You make a good point actually. I think that's the way it is for me. I lost a group of friends I'd been with for years and it was devastating. I went through such horrible depression because of it, blaming myself, rah rah rah (they weren't blameless though).
But I had Live Journal, and I had friends through that who, while I had never met them, cared about me more than the ones I'd lost ever seemed to.
It's not just LJ though for me. It's other places, message forums mainly. I've had the same friends for years, since 2002, and while we've grown apart a little bit, we still chat. And in 2005 I met some fantastic people I've kept in contact with, and even met in person.
I guess for me, it fills a void, because yes, I am a very lonely person, who needs friends who are on the same wavelength as me. And I've found them through LJ/the internet.
Does that make me a sad individual? :(
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I don't think it makes you a sad individual at all, didn't mean to imply in any way that you were or that this post was in any way negative.
As much as I'd love to continue this philosophical discussion, I fear that if we do continue it I will A) be up for a few hours and B) take the laptop to the living room and play Zelda in between responses. :P
So for the sake of work in the morning, I'll chat to you soon. :)
-B
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Haha yes, you get sleep ;) I should head off myself, aiee...
Nighters! :)
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-B
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I think validation is correct but I think I use it to write about stuff I don't feel comfortable speaking about, or can't find the words to explain.
Friendship is a two way street, don't feel like YOU neglected anyone cuz it was probly a two person job. Unless you told someone to fuck off and not speak to you ever again but I can't reeeeeeeally see that happening :)
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Ok, you're right, I can't really see me saying that either. But two way streets have to be walked by both peoples, so I can still blame lethargy first.
-B
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