when will I meet the man to fit this bill...
So my life has changed a lot since I've last posted. I broke up with Emanuel.
Moving on...
...school's challenging me to be diligent and disciplined with my time. It's hard.
God…is there a man OUT THERE like THIS?
My Godly man of whom I will marry MUST/WILL:
-Be on fire for God….totally in LOVE with the Lord
-Fear God alone
-Speak in tongues
-Read God’s Word daily
-Seek God a lot…seeking His face, prayer, meditation, etc.
-Worship God without shame in his own way
-Be diligent in whatever he has to do for God
-Be disciplined
-Be slow to anger
-Be kind…not sarcastic with me, hurting my feelings left and right…a funny guy is great and I’d love that quality A LOT, but sarcasm hurts me…he has to be funny in other ways or else no thank you
-Be patient
-Be consistent- have structure to his life
-Be loving to all
-Not talk badly about people all the time…it’s not edifying…must be more optimistic, thinking the best of people that he can
-Be on the same page as me…agree with most things…not all but the things that are important…it’s important for us to agree on the important things
-Be willing to move around with me when we get married because I feel led to tour in my music ministry
-Maybe be willing to learn new languages. Who knows what God has in store! We may end up in a different country! There are no limits with God…and I wanna make it a point to never say no and give God an eternal yes (Yay, CRL class!)
-Be encouraged by me and encourage me back
-Challenge me to grow
-Insist on waiting until marriage to make love or anything sexual including French kissing, etc. I might not even kiss him til my wedding day and he has to be supportive of that and want it for himself as well if anything.
-Cares about the things I care about and respects me for it.
-Cares about the things God cares about.
-Sees me through God’s eyes…understands me not as God does, but more than any other actual person on earth could
-Have the heart of a servant.
-Will go when God sends him wherever God sends him.
-Know when to joke and when to be serious…and also when to be romantic would be nice!
-Be able to communicate effectively and in a way that resolves all our conflicts
-Be good at math and taxes…Lord knows I’m not! Ha ha!
-Treat me like Christ treats His church
-Care about my family and want them in our life together as husband and wife
-Love God more than me….way more…so much more he can’t express it with words…and that love he has for Him will be so evident in the way he acts/talks/lives.
-Believe that quoting scripture is beneficial for spiritual growth and will do his best to memorize scriptures he needs to memorize for his own personal growth in God
-Be able to communicate with me and us be able to understand and respect one another
-Be able to romanticize my socks off…not literally…but he’s gotta be able to wow me whether it be by special arrangements for an amazing evening, singing me a song he wrote on his guitar, piano, etc., or a profound conversation.
-Be a musician??
-Want to pray with me/for me
-Want to read the Bible with me
-Want to worship God with me
-Be able to support me financially as his wife and our family too.
-Be committed and dedicated to our relationship
-Love showing affection….especially when we’re married because I’ll want everything and anything all the time.
-Love showing our children affection- he can’t be one of those dads who never says ‘I love you,” or never hugs/kisses his kids…no thanks.
-Appreciate me….truly appreciate me…and NOT take me for granted.
-Treat me like a princess…I’m God’s child and will be treated with love, respect, and appreciation…no rudeness or meanness…being a jerk like a joke is great but serious jerking around isn’t fun…it hurts…know where to draw the line because I like feeling good about myself and if I’m treated like poop verbally then I feel like poopish…it’s not princess-like to feel poopish!
-Seek after the things of God
-Want a lot of kids because I feel called to be a mother of many…not only many of my own but to be a maternal figure to people everywhere through my music.
-Be up to supporting twins…I want twins…ha-ha.
-Love to spend time with the family doing family stuff together…and before having a family, spend as much quality time with me as possible, too. Quality time is BIG with me.
-Acts of service is big with me.
-Words of affirmation is big.
-Communication is huge.
-Support me in my career
-Be able to tell me anything- trust is big…he has gotta trust me
-Be into the idea of leading people to Christ, telling the unsaved about Jesus, etc. Be willing to do this kind of stuff if it’s prompted upon us during our lives, whatever kind of stuff God says to do, do it…like if God tells him to go talk to someone about the Bible, he has gotta go do it and wanna do it
-Be passionate about God, but have a dream/goal that he knows God is destining in him to pursue.
-His and my ministries must mix well…this shows our relationship is of God
-Love children and be good at entertaining them/making them happy/bonding…but ESPECIALLY a good role model/example and teacher for them.
-Hold fast to what he wants if he feels it’s of God and not give up!
-Give God his 100%
-Know who he is in Christ…be happy with himself, love himself, know that God loves him a lot.
-Be willing to grow in God…have a LONGING to constantly draw nearer to God
-Willingness to experience crazy, new things…especially if God leads us to them…ex: taking a homeless person out to dinner if God places it on our hearts…stuff like that’s so neat. I don’t want to have to think twice about saying, “Hey, baby, look at them… they look hungry…let’s take them out to have some dinner.”
-Generous - charity cases are fun to support…it feels good to do this kind of stuff for other people and God wants us to.
-Tithe to God (duh) He’s gotta be willing to let the dinero go… haha Seriously…the tithe is God’s to begin with.
-Be a man of diligence, discipline, and self control.
-Fast regularly
Qualities I won’t settle for:
-Pridefulness…because pride comes before the fall and I won’t settle with someone who will drag me and my life down with their pride
-Laziness…ex: sleeping all day, no productivity…I don’t like that kind of stuff I admire a person that wakes up early to have communion with God…he doesn’t have to…but he longs to draw closer to God and I NEED a man like that…I don’t want a man that will settle for whatever comes along…I don’t want a life of mediocrity…I want a life that when I go to heaven and my husband too, God can say to us, “Well done, my children.”
-Quick to anger or just sound angry/annoyed
-Uncaring
-Unforgiving
-Greedy-$$$ no thank you. I want my man focused on more important things…there’s a line between being well off, living nice, etc and just being interested in how to get rich for one’s own profits…it’s stupid. Money isn’t important…it is, but it isn’t…God provides it because it’s needed, but we don’t need excess…if God decides to bless us with money then let Him, but my man had better never become a greedy pig.
-Pessimistic
-Cursing….ugh.
-Shutting me out- no communication…this makes life hard. Period.
-Serious sarcasm….sarcasm hurts and I could do without it unless it’s just silliness. Silliness is great but serious sarcasm isn’t acceptable because it’s rude..
-Rudeness…it’s unnecessary.
-Judgmental…also unnecessary.
-Abusive…physical/mental-verbal (duh)
All of the “must haves” are negotiable concerning God alone, not the guy. If God thinks I overstepped or under stepped anything, He will let me know and I may end up revising that list…but right now those are my non negotiables. And I know it’s hard to embody all of that…but as long as the guy is trying, that’s what matters to me. As long as he is doing his best for God…that’s all that matters…but he’s gotta try and be all he can be…not do things half cheeked. He’s gotta give God 100% otherwise he’s not for me…because if my man doesn’t give God 100%, why should I? I need an amazing role model. I need someone who will push me beyond my own set limits into unknown territories. I look up to the man…so he’s gotta be top shelf. Otherwise I will end up being dragged down if he’s not and it will shape me into someone I don’t want to be…I want to give my 100% and I don’t want anyone unwilling to do that to drag me down. We have to be evenly yoked and if he’s for me, sure, the relationship will have its little things to work through by debating and explaining and sometimes fighting, but when it comes to big things, if we’re not on the same page…if we don’t find agreement in important issues…then it’s time to rethink the relationship. With my man, we’ll go through the storms of life together, clinging to God, and encouraging one another through it. I realize some of the must haves aren’t applicable right now, but they are with the intent of the future, so if the guy considering me doesn’t feel up to them after having read this, then he’s not for me.
Moving on...
...school's challenging me to be diligent and disciplined with my time. It's hard.
God…is there a man OUT THERE like THIS?
My Godly man of whom I will marry MUST/WILL:
-Be on fire for God….totally in LOVE with the Lord
-Fear God alone
-Speak in tongues
-Read God’s Word daily
-Seek God a lot…seeking His face, prayer, meditation, etc.
-Worship God without shame in his own way
-Be diligent in whatever he has to do for God
-Be disciplined
-Be slow to anger
-Be kind…not sarcastic with me, hurting my feelings left and right…a funny guy is great and I’d love that quality A LOT, but sarcasm hurts me…he has to be funny in other ways or else no thank you
-Be patient
-Be consistent- have structure to his life
-Be loving to all
-Not talk badly about people all the time…it’s not edifying…must be more optimistic, thinking the best of people that he can
-Be on the same page as me…agree with most things…not all but the things that are important…it’s important for us to agree on the important things
-Be willing to move around with me when we get married because I feel led to tour in my music ministry
-Maybe be willing to learn new languages. Who knows what God has in store! We may end up in a different country! There are no limits with God…and I wanna make it a point to never say no and give God an eternal yes (Yay, CRL class!)
-Be encouraged by me and encourage me back
-Challenge me to grow
-Insist on waiting until marriage to make love or anything sexual including French kissing, etc. I might not even kiss him til my wedding day and he has to be supportive of that and want it for himself as well if anything.
-Cares about the things I care about and respects me for it.
-Cares about the things God cares about.
-Sees me through God’s eyes…understands me not as God does, but more than any other actual person on earth could
-Have the heart of a servant.
-Will go when God sends him wherever God sends him.
-Know when to joke and when to be serious…and also when to be romantic would be nice!
-Be able to communicate effectively and in a way that resolves all our conflicts
-Be good at math and taxes…Lord knows I’m not! Ha ha!
-Treat me like Christ treats His church
-Care about my family and want them in our life together as husband and wife
-Love God more than me….way more…so much more he can’t express it with words…and that love he has for Him will be so evident in the way he acts/talks/lives.
-Believe that quoting scripture is beneficial for spiritual growth and will do his best to memorize scriptures he needs to memorize for his own personal growth in God
-Be able to communicate with me and us be able to understand and respect one another
-Be able to romanticize my socks off…not literally…but he’s gotta be able to wow me whether it be by special arrangements for an amazing evening, singing me a song he wrote on his guitar, piano, etc., or a profound conversation.
-Be a musician??
-Want to pray with me/for me
-Want to read the Bible with me
-Want to worship God with me
-Be able to support me financially as his wife and our family too.
-Be committed and dedicated to our relationship
-Love showing affection….especially when we’re married because I’ll want everything and anything all the time.
-Love showing our children affection- he can’t be one of those dads who never says ‘I love you,” or never hugs/kisses his kids…no thanks.
-Appreciate me….truly appreciate me…and NOT take me for granted.
-Treat me like a princess…I’m God’s child and will be treated with love, respect, and appreciation…no rudeness or meanness…being a jerk like a joke is great but serious jerking around isn’t fun…it hurts…know where to draw the line because I like feeling good about myself and if I’m treated like poop verbally then I feel like poopish…it’s not princess-like to feel poopish!
-Seek after the things of God
-Want a lot of kids because I feel called to be a mother of many…not only many of my own but to be a maternal figure to people everywhere through my music.
-Be up to supporting twins…I want twins…ha-ha.
-Love to spend time with the family doing family stuff together…and before having a family, spend as much quality time with me as possible, too. Quality time is BIG with me.
-Acts of service is big with me.
-Words of affirmation is big.
-Communication is huge.
-Support me in my career
-Be able to tell me anything- trust is big…he has gotta trust me
-Be into the idea of leading people to Christ, telling the unsaved about Jesus, etc. Be willing to do this kind of stuff if it’s prompted upon us during our lives, whatever kind of stuff God says to do, do it…like if God tells him to go talk to someone about the Bible, he has gotta go do it and wanna do it
-Be passionate about God, but have a dream/goal that he knows God is destining in him to pursue.
-His and my ministries must mix well…this shows our relationship is of God
-Love children and be good at entertaining them/making them happy/bonding…but ESPECIALLY a good role model/example and teacher for them.
-Hold fast to what he wants if he feels it’s of God and not give up!
-Give God his 100%
-Know who he is in Christ…be happy with himself, love himself, know that God loves him a lot.
-Be willing to grow in God…have a LONGING to constantly draw nearer to God
-Willingness to experience crazy, new things…especially if God leads us to them…ex: taking a homeless person out to dinner if God places it on our hearts…stuff like that’s so neat. I don’t want to have to think twice about saying, “Hey, baby, look at them… they look hungry…let’s take them out to have some dinner.”
-Generous - charity cases are fun to support…it feels good to do this kind of stuff for other people and God wants us to.
-Tithe to God (duh) He’s gotta be willing to let the dinero go… haha Seriously…the tithe is God’s to begin with.
-Be a man of diligence, discipline, and self control.
-Fast regularly
Qualities I won’t settle for:
-Pridefulness…because pride comes before the fall and I won’t settle with someone who will drag me and my life down with their pride
-Laziness…ex: sleeping all day, no productivity…I don’t like that kind of stuff I admire a person that wakes up early to have communion with God…he doesn’t have to…but he longs to draw closer to God and I NEED a man like that…I don’t want a man that will settle for whatever comes along…I don’t want a life of mediocrity…I want a life that when I go to heaven and my husband too, God can say to us, “Well done, my children.”
-Quick to anger or just sound angry/annoyed
-Uncaring
-Unforgiving
-Greedy-$$$ no thank you. I want my man focused on more important things…there’s a line between being well off, living nice, etc and just being interested in how to get rich for one’s own profits…it’s stupid. Money isn’t important…it is, but it isn’t…God provides it because it’s needed, but we don’t need excess…if God decides to bless us with money then let Him, but my man had better never become a greedy pig.
-Pessimistic
-Cursing….ugh.
-Shutting me out- no communication…this makes life hard. Period.
-Serious sarcasm….sarcasm hurts and I could do without it unless it’s just silliness. Silliness is great but serious sarcasm isn’t acceptable because it’s rude..
-Rudeness…it’s unnecessary.
-Judgmental…also unnecessary.
-Abusive…physical/mental-verbal (duh)
All of the “must haves” are negotiable concerning God alone, not the guy. If God thinks I overstepped or under stepped anything, He will let me know and I may end up revising that list…but right now those are my non negotiables. And I know it’s hard to embody all of that…but as long as the guy is trying, that’s what matters to me. As long as he is doing his best for God…that’s all that matters…but he’s gotta try and be all he can be…not do things half cheeked. He’s gotta give God 100% otherwise he’s not for me…because if my man doesn’t give God 100%, why should I? I need an amazing role model. I need someone who will push me beyond my own set limits into unknown territories. I look up to the man…so he’s gotta be top shelf. Otherwise I will end up being dragged down if he’s not and it will shape me into someone I don’t want to be…I want to give my 100% and I don’t want anyone unwilling to do that to drag me down. We have to be evenly yoked and if he’s for me, sure, the relationship will have its little things to work through by debating and explaining and sometimes fighting, but when it comes to big things, if we’re not on the same page…if we don’t find agreement in important issues…then it’s time to rethink the relationship. With my man, we’ll go through the storms of life together, clinging to God, and encouraging one another through it. I realize some of the must haves aren’t applicable right now, but they are with the intent of the future, so if the guy considering me doesn’t feel up to them after having read this, then he’s not for me.