The guy was between 28 and 32 and his mother was around 55. I had been chatting with her for a few minutes and she was just the sweetest thing and when I saw him hit her as she was about to get into her car, I had to fight to keep from running over there and freaking out on him. Instead, my mom and I went over to see if she was okay and if she wanted us to call the police or anything. I couldn't believe what I saw or that he had the audacity to do it in front of about 20 people. I can't shake the idea that I should have done something else to help her, but I don't know what that would be. Sorry to be so long-winded, I'm just extremely angry.
And wow. If he's doing it in so unabashedly in public at this point, this has to be a long-term, continued abusive situation as opposed to an isolated incident. It's so sad...there may come a time when she's older and completely dependent on him for all of her health needs (hopefully that isn't the situation).
Re: Yes, they do deserve better.belle_laideMay 21 2005, 22:54:42 UTC
No, she didn't seem to. Her response to our concern and my loud "What a fucked-up asshole!" comment was polite and nonchalant. She didn't seem the least bit affected other than physically. Fuck the psychology of victimization.
nothing that you couldve done wouldve made any difference. on the contrary, he might have had more reason to attack her or rage at her later on. so dont be hard on yourself. actually i applaud you for having more restraint than i wouldve had in such a situation. im sure that your words of support did more good than any violence against the jerk would have, in the long run. and in my experience police dont do jack to help in these cases. just be sure that he will end up in a bad place in the end if he doesnt learn to treat others better.
I know you're totally right, but there's a large part of me that is just not cool with letting things like that sit. She was so nice and cool too. My parents and I had been chatting with her for about 15 minutes prior to the whole thing and she just had the kindest, warmest demeanor about her. AAAAARGH! I just want to go fuck that guy up so badly right now and I'm having a hard time putting it out of my mind. I wrote an op-ed piece to the local paper out of frustration but that hasn't really made me feel any better. God, what a shitbag.
yeah...it really makes you wonder how shitforbrains like that get spawned from the nicest people...or vice versa...it just doesnt seem possible they come from the same genepool. but yeah, making ppl aware of it is and letting them know its not normal or accepted is probably the best thing we can do to help.
I know! And to do that to your own mother, no less! A lot of fucked-up, abusive shitbags like that at least leave their mothers alone (physically anyway) even if they treat other women like shit.
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