You are What you love, and not what loves you back

[beltacular]

SO Maybe its just the recent holiday, or maybe these are some thoughts I've been kicking around for a while.  But i've been grappling with the idea of this Jenny lewis song- you are what you love, and not what loves you back.  Do we say "I Love You" because we need, expect, or want something back?  And is that right

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[trishajam]

The word "love" has just recently been added to my verbal vocabulary and I've been pondering the same questions and have had the same feelings as you.

I have a hard saying "I love you" because I'm afraid that it won't be returned or the feelings are not reciprocal, but I have learned that they are, yet I still have difficulty verbally expressing love. And I do agree when you say No love should go unspoken, unremarked on. To me though, if you feel it and you know it, why say it? But I've recently discovered how wonderful it is to hear that someone loves you.

Ideally, I agree that we should tell people whom we love that we love them. For me however, I'm very protective of myself so I don't open up to love so easily. I'm learning...

[sugjosh]

If you tell a person that you love them, you will always expect something back in exchange. It doesn't always mean that they need to say it back. It could be in a smile or embrace or just knowing that they are there to help you without expecting anything in return. Love, or saying that you love someone, has such a broad spectrum of "repayment" that you can't really put love into any sort of category