Comments | bethofalltrades: -isms, Jokes & Assholes (specifically me)

bethofalltrades

-isms, Jokes & Assholes (specifically me)

Jul 08, 2012 19:50

"Privilege is perpetuated in part by the silence of people when one of their own group does something questionable. This can be an inappropriate joke, or someone admitting that they committed a crime against a non-privileged person (eg. rape), etc."

-Andrea Rubenstein, from "Check my what?" On privilege and what we can do about itThis blog has ( Read more... )

writing, fat, my writing, gay, fat jokes, social justice, privilege

Comments 6

cranky__crocus July 9 2012, 04:48:45 UTC

I am so glad you finished and posted this entry. Thank you.

harborshore July 9 2012, 08:42:02 UTC

Thank you ♥

locksmithy July 11 2012, 00:15:29 UTC

It's not easy to (publicly!) reflect on one's mistakes or regrettables-- you as always with a brave underlying theme of honesty and sharing-- gosh i dont know how to not write a sappy comment on this. I only in the last 2 years learned about cisgender-- as a term and the important conversations and issues surrounding many of the things you wrote about. It's a learning adventure-- life is for us to live through clumsily with open hearts/minds i suppose. I've been thinking about other kinds of judgment calls a lot lately, so i hope this isn't to incoherent or irrelevant sounding. Arting and writing about it afterwards makes all the difference. Been thinking of you! Very best, xojojo

anonymous July 20 2012, 03:24:24 UTC

It's been really interesting seeing your views on this evolving over the last few years, because I feel like I've been following a separate but parallel path to becoming more aware of my own privilege and more sensitive to the othering language pervasive in our culture.

komcaast July 20 2012, 03:25:05 UTC

That was me btw

anonymous August 15 2012, 09:46:08 UTC

I just wanted to say thank you so much for writing this, it's a brilliant post. I've had some arguments with people about ableism where the thing is, they don't understand the difference between 'being offended' and causing actual, real damage with their comments. A well known comedian recently tweeted some ableist slurs, and when called out on it, claimed he 'had the right to offend' and that 'offence isn't given, it's taken'. First of all, to claim that it's the fault of the marginalised person if they're affected by the comments is disgusting, because then you start to suggest that anyone who is harmed by anything verbal only has themselves to blame and it suggests the person making the comments is not at fault. If one person who is affected directly by your 'joke' calls you out on it because it is hurtful and harmful to them and to people who are like them, that should be enough for you to realise that something is wrong with the way you are behaving, and you have no right, as the privileged person, to tell them that they are ( ... )