Thursday night church & dinner

[bethy_beth]

Today is Thursday, or at least it will be for a few more minutes, which means that college-age Bible study was tonight. I always dread the part where they say "stand up and greet each other" because David always makes me tell him how many hands I shook, and I only get the three or so people who decide they want to reach out to the shy girl who's

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[wudu_wasa]

Lol, I suppose old habits do die hard, however it can be done. I remember when I was that shy, I would hide like some elusive fay in the corners of the room. I think most of my shyness was due to ineptitudes of conversing and perhaps yours as well. What I found that help was to find common subjects of interest. For me, sword-play, gaming and movies has worked well for the guys. Is there any generic subjects that women like? Perhaps relationships, TV shows or perhaps what sort of people they admire in the bible. I suppose the subject of men may suffice when there's want of merriment although you might not want to do it when David is around. Is there any other reasons why you might be shy? Some childhood mishap perhaps?

[bethy_beth]

Wow, "ineptitudes of conversing" sounds pretty harsh, but you know, I think "inept" might actually be a pretty good word for me in this area. How sad. And no, I don't think any particular traumatic incident caused it.

The subject of men? I'm a bit confused as to what this would include. Do you mean something like, "Isn't it annoying when guys ________?" or something like, "Doesn't Orlando look scrumptious with his shirt off?"

[wudu_wasa]

I originally had the intention of refering to myself, but if you really think so, so be it. (By the way I wouldn't really describe you as "inept" but rather as reluctant.) Chin up girl, you need not be ashamed of being shy, it's just a different way of living.

Yes, something like that; perhaps you could discuss your favorite actor, you know, small talk. Just think of it as conversing on IM, myspace or even LJ just instead of a avatar, you have an actual person. You don't seem to be that shy there.

[wudu_wasa]

You also might want to look at http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/Tips.HTM

[origamigrl]

hmm, I can't help you with your shyness (although I must say you've gotten a lot better)... And you're not lame at all - you are awesome! Often times I don't bother talking to people or can't think of anything to say, either. It's not lame to be quiet or shy. It's all in your head, really. Besides, I'm generally quiet and [hopefully] aren't lame or anything. lol.

[bethy_beth]

Well yeah, you're not lame, I know that.

[origamigrl]

So, by logic, if I'm not lame then neither are you :)