Family triggers

[sbangel]

Anyone else out here have a family full of triggers? I'm starting to have a love/hate relationship with mine. I feel like I am damned if I do damned if I don't when trying to keep them in my life. Has anyone had to disown their family just to get through life?

Comments

[bnlgrl4]

Well, for all intents and purposes, I've disowned my grandparents. They are HUGE triggers for me, and…well…they're miserable. So, I have as little to do with them as I can.

[sbangel]

Wow, so sorry to hear that. I have yet to cut anyone out of my family and am hard pressed to do it. I guess we have to do what is best for us in the end. I'm crossing my fingers that I don't have to do that with my immediate family members.

leaving family behind

[psycogremlin]

hello, yeah i've had to leave an adoptive family and birth family behind to survive my addictions and self sabotage, both of my families include alot of abuse. The adopted faamily i witnissed and felt first hand and my natural family i got to hear about from my sister, which escallated my addiction and the resulting sabotaging of my family unit i.e my daughter and her mother, who with hindsight did the best thing ending our relationship some years ago. I have daily thoughts of suicide but due to the fact that i have one daughter who is 15 years 6 month's old i can't end it because i have seen what suicide does to those that are left to deal with it

Re: leaving family behind

[sbangel]

Thank you for opening yourself up and replying to my post. I do like how true that quote is. Can you imagine what life would be like if you could have picked your family. Makes me wonder anyways. You are right, my number one goal is to protect my own sanity and it is very nice to know that I am not alone either. It is a big world out there and I am going to look for more people like me out there. Thank you again for your reply it made a huge difference in my day today. I pray I will leave to build my own family and not repeat the mistakes of my past with them. Peace.

[frodobaggins_88]

My dad is and has always been a huge trigger for me, especially now that I know he's cheating on my mom. I've pretty much had to realize he's a selfish person and doesn't give a real damn about any of us and come from it as a professional relationship rather than a personal one. After all, he himself described himself as my sister's and my "tenant" when we're in his house. Thankfully, I had the option to move in with my boyfriend and he works in a different city far enough away he's hardly home so I don't have to deal with his negativity and can often visit my mother in her own home without having to worry.

[sbangel]

Seems there are a lot of people that are triggered by family. Sounds like putting distance between them is beneficial. I have found that I feel better at least living in the same state just not the same house ;)