My birth story...

[nakedfaery]

Hi everyone. I'm so relieved to have found this community that I cried my heart out when I was reading it last night

Comments

[moonshineray]

They had to shove my son out of the birth canal too when they sectioned me. I understand what that is like. I also know what it is like to feel helpless when being bullied into care you never wanted.

I am so sorry this happened to you. So very sorry.

I will say not to let fear of rupture affect your decision to vbac, single verses double sutures is still a very argued thing as far as how "safe" they are. I believe if you want another child, you can VBAC, especially since you almost birthed your son as it was and if they had left you alone you would have. How anyone can birth in a hospital environment really is something I am always amazed by.

*HUGS* Thank you for sharing, I hope getting it out helps and I hope your road to healing continues and leads you to a good place emotionally.

[swizzle_]

Your story brought back memories. Mine was similar though I opted for the vacuum extraction. If they offered me forceps or c-section I would have chosen the c-section too when I was in that place and time. I too wish I had been able to stand up for myself a little more. Ok A LOT more! *hugs* I understand about taking a long time to write it. I still haven't been able to write mine out to share here.

[sueg]

I feel very sad for you that you didn't have effective support during your difficult pregnancy and labor. I'm so sorry that it became so traumatic. You really did fight for your son in many ways and should be so proud of yourself. I think you showed a lot of strength in this story.

[nakedfaery]

Wow, you're the first person to say that to me! Pretty much everyone I've spoken to seems to think I'm some kind of hell bitch for wanting a c section and not wanting to have salad servers shoved into my cut open vagina. I always associate my birth story with weakness, so I'm really glad it comes across in as strength in some ways :-)

[sueg]

I think we make the best decisions we can with the information we have at the time, you know? A forceps delivery could have been very rough on both you and the baby and I don't blame you for fearing that (not that c-sections aren't rough). You went as long as you could in labor until your health care providers basically told you that you couldn't anymore, and all of that labor was beneficial for your baby.

I also think it takes a real badass mama to pump for months when breastfeeding gets off to such a rocky start, and it's impressive, especially at the age you were at the time.

[moonshineray]

No, I think she is right, this is totally spot on. You did a lot given what you knew and that you had no help.

Btw, I was given a similar choice (though my doc added some shoulder breaking horror to the story) and I chose the section I didn't need as well. Given my options at the time, it was all I could do, same as you. *HUGS*

[inever]

Thank you for sharing this. The more we share our stories with others the better able we are to heal.

I wish I could direct expectant first time mothers to this community, but I know it would scare them too much.

[ailbhe]

We need some sort of moderated "informed_choice" community to give pregnant women access to research and information about pregnancy, birth, modern medicine, breastfeeding, the lot. Somewhere people could ask questions.

Because you're right, scaring pregnant women is a good way to make their labours harder and more traumatic.

[demoted_goddess]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. *hugs* I'm so sorry for you that it was so traumatic. I really wish that hospitals would stop using such a vulnerable time to put such incredibly stressful decisions on women, especially when all the options aren't presented. Good luck on your path to healing.