Jeremy, did you ever notice that the people with the highest self esteem are often the people who least deserve it? They may be complacent and bossy and feel no need to achieve. Many or most of history's creators, inventors, achievers, doers suffer from low self esteem. They are constantly driven to do more and be more because they demand so much of themselves. The trick is to recognize the search for self esteem as a tool and use it just to motivate yourself. The search can be a wicked taskmaster, so don't forget to note and register your accomplishments lest it become a crippling obsession. Don't let it make you a "Tortured Soul" as are so many artists, writers, poets, scientists who haven't striven for balance. (That's an art in itself). Of course, a little angst can be useful, if uncomfortable. Please excuse the intrusion if it is such.
Re: Self esteemblack_monolithAugust 8 2005, 01:41:46 UTC
Merteuil's Mom,
It was not an intrusion. I really love it when people (other than myself) give me advice because I feel pretty lost sometimes... yeah that's putting it mildly.. I'm trying very hard not to be tortured, and dad told me the other day that I need to live outwardly and get out of my head and all that, and it's slowly working but damn it's hard. Being anyone is hard... thank you for the advice.. im a survivor.. sometimes i wonder though because it's noisy in here, Merteuil's Mom.. Have a good evening and enjoy your wonderful daughter.
Re: Self esteem
anonymous
August 8 2005, 14:50:44 UTC
Jeremy, Your description of the noise in your head calls to mind the antithesis of that which would be a void and total silence in your head. That would be truly frightening. I'd be interested to know if your dad's advice to look outward helps and if you're able to carry it through.
Glad you appreciate my daughter online. She has an equally wonderful sister, and I am in awe of both of them. I like to think I made some small contribution to their development into warm and interesting people by sprinkling chocolate chips or mini-marshmallows on their breakfast cereal when they were growing up.
Off to the (semi)wilderness for two weeks. Be well. You seem to have many friends who care about you and are concerned for you.
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Not knowing is half fun and the other half is scary.
Just pull through it the best you can, Jer.
I know you have it in you.
:O)
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Please excuse the intrusion if it is such.
Merteuil's Mom
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It was not an intrusion. I really love it when people (other than myself) give me advice because I feel pretty lost sometimes... yeah that's putting it mildly.. I'm trying very hard not to be tortured, and dad told me the other day that I need to live outwardly and get out of my head and all that, and it's slowly working but damn it's hard. Being anyone is hard... thank you for the advice.. im a survivor.. sometimes i wonder though because it's noisy in here, Merteuil's Mom.. Have a good evening and enjoy your wonderful daughter.
Jeremy
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Your description of the noise in your head calls to mind the antithesis of that which would be a void and total silence in your head. That would be truly frightening. I'd be interested to know if your dad's advice to look outward helps and if you're able to carry it through.
Glad you appreciate my daughter online. She has an equally wonderful sister, and I am in awe of both of them. I like to think I made some small contribution to their development into warm and interesting people by sprinkling chocolate chips or mini-marshmallows on their breakfast cereal when they were growing up.
Off to the (semi)wilderness for two weeks. Be well. You seem to have many friends who care about you and are concerned for you.
Merteuil's Mom
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