Although you must note that is not a male condition, but a human condition, as your 'common-sense man rules' could easily apply to both genders. I've had very similar experiences, from both sides of the field, and I've learnt that it's not merely a gender that is at fault, but the individual or at times, the circumstance.
I never said it was strictly for men, as I've never really had a relationship with a female I wouldn't know what that's like would I :P So I can't really comment on that...
And I think it's more the individual though the trait seems to show up way too much for my liking...
"Common-sense man rules" are more the first three things...
i would say that the first one about guilt tripping is more of a female trait..
jealousy is something that pains us all... mostly... well because some things are worth getting jelous over... well.. they can seem to be and if they arent... i'll still get jealous... i'll always be jelous... i'll also always feel second best as well...
relationships are the most painful things to be put through.. yet we all do it... because we need that other person who we've let in... even after they've proven themselves unworthy of being there...
Can't say that I've had a female give me a guilt trip before - that's definitely a male thing, almost every relationship I have had has had it.
I hear you about the second best thing - I think that's mainly because people want "space" or something and you just feel second to that no matter how much reassurance is given (unless they actually bother to look at you while reassuring you. Which to either sex isn't always that often...)
"proven unworthy of being there" seems a little harsh almost regardless of what they did (unless they hurt you physically and emotionally I guess) but yeah, sometimes you know there is someone a lot better yet you're afraid of being alone.
Everyone is afraid of being alone for some reason and I don't really understand that... I guess it is some weird human quality?
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And I think it's more the individual though the trait seems to show up way too much for my liking...
"Common-sense man rules" are more the first three things...
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jealousy is something that pains us all... mostly... well because some things are worth getting jelous over... well.. they can seem to be and if they arent... i'll still get jealous... i'll always be jelous... i'll also always feel second best as well...
relationships are the most painful things to be put through.. yet we all do it... because we need that other person who we've let in... even after they've proven themselves unworthy of being there...
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I hear you about the second best thing - I think that's mainly because people want "space" or something and you just feel second to that no matter how much reassurance is given (unless they actually bother to look at you while reassuring you. Which to either sex isn't always that often...)
"proven unworthy of being there" seems a little harsh almost regardless of what they did (unless they hurt you physically and emotionally I guess) but yeah, sometimes you know there is someone a lot better yet you're afraid of being alone.
Everyone is afraid of being alone for some reason and I don't really understand that... I guess it is some weird human quality?
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Are you going to claim to be that person... That might be the only thing that gets you in trouble... :P
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