Educationally Yoked?

Apr 04, 2013 14:37

I posted this question earlier today on my facebook page and it made for interesting discussion but I'm curious to know what Blackfolk think ( Read more... )

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mahasin April 4 2013, 18:54:44 UTC
I think they are equating education with intelligence and I don't think they are the same.

I think that people want to be intellectually engaged with a partner.

That's how I am, my SO and I have different educational levels, I have a B.S. and he has a GED but he can spar intellectually with me and I don't find myself bored with him.

I have however dated guys who couldn't keep up, who weren't socially engaged and when I 'd talk about politics or social issues, he'd have no idea what I was talking about and I was bored.

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papertigers April 4 2013, 21:58:42 UTC
I think they are equating education with intelligence and I don't think they are the same.

this. my wife has an MA and I'm still working on my BA, but she constantly tells me and others that I am smarter and better informed than she is. I know plenty of people with more education than I have who are completely lacking in intellectual curiosity, and socio-political and foundational knowledge; I find that much more of a dealbreaker than lacking an post-secondary degree.

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implodes April 6 2013, 05:48:05 UTC
yep. i am in a relationship now but if i weren't, i could definitely date someone with less education than me but who was still intellectually voracious, loved learning new things, and whom i had great conversations with. now, since all i have right now is a BA, if i were trying to stay with this hypothetical person long-term we would have to have conversations about our finances and all that (though obviously there are some folks w/o a college degree who make more than me ( ... )

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agreed sofvckinghot April 8 2013, 04:09:21 UTC
I'd take a life long learner with no degrees, who educates himself out of curiosity and desire, to an educated fool any day.

I'm finishing my master's degree. My definition of a "good man" does not include a degree requirement. Being intelligent, engaged and well read is definitely not the same as being "educated."

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1208am April 4 2013, 19:24:24 UTC
For me, it's not a deal breaker but it is important. If my partner in a profession where you can't advance because of their lack of higher learning & would not want to pursue higher learning that could cause an issue. I would want someone with some higher learning just so they could understand my experiences and be a resource/role model for out children when they are going into higher education. I don't think making it a requirement is a cultural thing it just seems like in marriage culture people with degrees marry people with degrees because they tend to be in the same social circles

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nepthys_12 April 6 2013, 21:46:39 UTC
I completely agree.

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madeline April 5 2013, 00:26:22 UTC
I agree that education is a valid factor, but equivalent degree levels shouldn't be a mandate for someone's dating pool. I find the levels of self-motivation, passion, and ambition to accomplish something (anything really) in a potential mate to be a far better indicator of compatibility than other the person having the same level of education or higher.

Interestingly several articles are out there which show a radically different preference for a man's ideal mate's level of education compared to his own.

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toodani April 5 2013, 03:16:48 UTC
Was this even written by someone with a degree? Way to simplify the issue! Personally I'd be bored stiff with half the guys I've met that have a degree on my level. Socio-political conversations over dinner? No thanks! ZZZzzzZzzZZZz The conversation I can understand is not the same as the conversation I WANT to have with someone, and even if it was, doesn't mean I would be better matched with that person.

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hashishinahooka April 5 2013, 12:40:55 UTC
This. I want someone to be able to carry interesting conversations, and a college degree does not guarantee interesting.

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keeni84 April 5 2013, 22:46:28 UTC
I'll have to agree with y'all. Some of the most intelligent people I've met have been those without degrees or titles. That said, I'm not talking about any old random on the street who believes he has knowledge (see: Illuminati references).

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