It's been a little over 7 months since my mother died. She died the 15 th of June 13 days before my 20th birthday. And I'm already starting to forget
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I know,I'm a bit surprised but I know...I don't think I can make you understand how much I want to go on that trip, but if you don't get any job there is not much we can do about it is there??
I don't have a personal experience to equal losing my mother. I have mourned a lot. Forgetting is the biggest part of mourning. 'Forgetting' is not what you seem to think it is. Memories never really go away, they just hide away in the back of the mind until something brings them to our attention, a sight, a feeling, a smell etc. can all trigger a long forgotten memory. You won't ever lose those memories, you'll always carry her around with you, even if you're not thinking about her every second.
Eventually you will go a day without thinking about it, you might have already done it and not realised. That doesn't make you a bad person, it's simply what happens over time if you let it. I understand if you hate me for saying this. When you're ready, you will forget about her and get on with your life, without this cloud hanging over you. But only if you let yourself. And eventually you should.
No my forgetting and your forgetting don't seem to be the same. I have never been thinking about her every second, and it's like you say sometimes a smell a word or something trigger a memory of her. But I'm starting to forget how it felt having a mother and what type of a person she was I don't ever want to forget that.
I don't agree with what you are saying about forgetting her and get on with my life. But you may be right but I don't want to believe that. I hope I can get on with my life and still remember her..
I lost my mom several years ago, she died in a car accident. I still remember her but the memories fade away more and more each passing day, I'm sorry about your loss, it's hard to deal with but life goes on. I'm constantly thinking about her lately, and get sad but then I think about how she'd like me to be happy and go on with my life, and I try to do that.
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I love you LOTS and LOTS and we WILL go on that USA trip this summer!!
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Forgetting is the biggest part of mourning. 'Forgetting' is not what you seem to think it is. Memories never really go away, they just hide away in the back of the mind until something brings them to our attention, a sight, a feeling, a smell etc. can all trigger a long forgotten memory. You won't ever lose those memories, you'll always carry her around with you, even if you're not thinking about her every second.
Eventually you will go a day without thinking about it, you might have already done it and not realised. That doesn't make you a bad person, it's simply what happens over time if you let it.
I understand if you hate me for saying this.
When you're ready, you will forget about her and get on with your life, without this cloud hanging over you. But only if you let yourself. And eventually you should.
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I have never been thinking about her every second, and it's like you say sometimes a smell a word or something trigger a memory of her.
But I'm starting to forget how it felt having a mother and what type of a person she was I don't ever want to forget that.
I don't agree with what you are saying about forgetting her and get on with my life. But you may be right but I don't want to believe that. I hope I can get on with my life and still remember her..
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