Yes, I am polyamorous. Here's what that *doesn't* mean...

[blackrosemoth]

For a long time I had some serious trepidations about returning poly, and then some more for coming out as poly once I went for it. There are some very specific things being polyamorous means to me, and some very specific things that it does not mean. One of the fears I've had was the idea of "vulturing" by people who might think that I'm

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[doe_witch]

I have read many enlightening things about poly, but this is my first time reading it from an actual friend, so it was especially enjoyable. Thank you, and keep being you!

[blackrosemoth]

Thanks. :) Anything to add or ponder? I feel like I was talking out of my ass a little almost.

[miwasatoshi]

And your idea of "talking out of your ass" is more articulate and cogent than 99% of people discussing anything in life. It's really crazy to me that you'd have to justify your relationships to anyone, but our society on the whole really doesn't understand poly and seeing how this operates in an everyday context is of massive help, especially, to those who are coming into this without previous experience.

Hope our paths cross again sometime soon, and not just on Facebook. :)

[blackrosemoth]

*waves* Hi!!! Coming in without previous experience is absolutely terrifying. I remember. And boy did I ever fuck it up. I'm still not necessarily getting it right. The people I'm involved with (aside from Andrew) are coming into it and all of us have a lot of trauma and anxieties about things. I'm glad that there are starting to be more resources and communities being built that let people know non-monogamous are a viable way to do things. And I'm finding that even the experienced person needs a lot of help sometimes.