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The more you try to find perfection in people, the more lonely you will find yourself.
How does a person go about accepting someone completely, including all of their flaws, strengths, triumphs, and failures... without trying to change them? Can you nudge them gently? How do you learn to get past the inevitable friction? Is there a point in ( Read more... )
How does a person go about accepting someone completely, including all of their flaws, strengths, triumphs, and failures... without trying to change them? Can you nudge them gently? How do you learn to get past the inevitable friction? Is there a point in ( Read more... )
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Expecting people to change is unrealistic. Any changes are bound to be superficial and temporary. Even if someone by great effort and love changes something that absolutely bugs you, she will still be imperfect in other ways. Live with it. If you can't, live without her. And without anyone else because we all are imperfect.
Communication is a skill. Skills are acquired and improved by practice. Some people are better than others at communication. You communicate differently with your parents than with your girlfriend. You have different roles in relation to different people, so you say things differently and talk about different subjects and ideas. This is normal and appropriate.
Rule #1: Don't sweat the small stuff.
Rule #2: It's all small stuff.
Rule #3: Relax and enjoy life.
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Established, which is why I wrote what I wrote.
Expecting people to change is unrealistic. Any changes are bound to be superficial and temporary. Even if someone by great effort and love changes something that absolutely bugs you, she will still be imperfect in other ways. Live with it. If you can't, live without her. And without anyone else because we all are imperfect.
I have come to understand that it is very unrealistic (but not entirely impossible). Trying to change a person/people was never an issue.
Communication is a skill. Skills are acquired and improved by practice. Some people are better than others at communication. You communicate differently with your parents than with your girlfriend. You have different roles in relation to different people, so you say things differently and talk about different subjects and ideas. This is normal and appropriate.
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Rabababa has some good points, too.
I think we all have different aspects of our personalities that get brought out and focused upon depending on which people we're with. It doesn't mean we're being fake if we suppress other parts of our personalities in other circumstances and with other people, it just means our personalities are very complex and flexible.
Communication is so important. I don't think we can ever have too much of it, be we often have too little.
Remember, the phone works both ways.
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I don't like hints, damnit! :-p Just be up-front!
I think we all have different aspects of our personalities that get brought out and focused upon depending on which people we're with.
True.
It doesn't mean we're being fake if we suppress other parts of our personalities in other circumstances and with other people, it just means our personalities are very complex and flexible.
True, again, but my gist was: "There are things that inhibit good, effective, mutual, communication, and things that inhibit being yourself. Some of which are not normal and appropriate." So, hah! :-)
Communication is so important. I don't think we can ever have too much of it, be we often have too little.
I agree 110%.
Remember, the phone works both ways.
Yes, it does... I'm missing something, right?
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You all have some very good points, and all I can do is to agree with you. :)
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Lol, who are you?
Feel free to comment as long as you behave. I crucify people who act like asses or bitches.
90% of the entries are friends-only, so you can add me if you want.
Peace.
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Ali gave me the link to you entry. I hope that's okay? :) I'm Maggie by the way.
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She gave you the link to my entry or my journal? Hmm... I wonder why.
Hello, Maggie. I'm Nick and 50% Danish! Lol
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