Thanks for the CANNON!
So my mother's found it sooooo easy to be a colossal bitch to me today apparently. Or maybe she's just worse with money than I am, either way.
So my one brother got paid this morning - cool whatever. She went with him because he gets money out of the atm in the morning and gives it to her for rent/bills. I went along a) cause I wanted to get out of the house and b) the atm's at wawa and that almost always guarentees a drink, regardless of what mom says. She said we weren't going to get any food or naything so I was like 'okay whatever' and just was along being quiet. As we're going to go check out - because she found boxes of donuts on sale for 2.99 - she's like 'are you going to get a sandwich or what?' and I blink at her a few times (Mom + Wawa apparently means "I am going to give you mixed signals". She did this to me last time too - she handed me a twenty, said NOT TO SPEND IT ON FOOD AT ALL, THIS IS NOT TO BUY FOOD AT WAWA IT IS ONLY FOR TRANSPORTATION, and then when I take my drink up to the counter with her, she tells me I'm paying for it with the twenty she just handed me. IS IT FOR FOOD OR ISN'T IT GOD DAMMIT?)
Anyway, so my brother points out also that the sandwiches are 2 for 3 bucks, so I look to see if they have the kind I like (I looooove sausage egg and cheese breakfast sammiches). they don't but we've got a mcdonald's right by us that kinda blows normally, but they at least do the breakfast sammiches okay and they're a buck for one (it's just the sausage but that's thep art I wanted anyway plus it's on a good biscuit rather than a bleh bagel). So I say "they dont' have my sammiches but if you really want to get me some, we can get 3 for the price they're giving 2 here, at mcdonalds." So we get there and I ask her if I'd be allowed to get a couple of hashbrowns. She's cool with it, whatever. Now, please note, she has not mentioned wanting food, up to that point. When she orders for us she almost always orders whatever she wants then whatever she's getting for me, and since she's driving, she always orders for us. Needless to say when she asks me as weird driving away if one of the sandwiches and one of the hashbrowns is for her.
Now, yes, me saying 'uh...no?' is a bit bad since she paid for it, but honestly, she got all angry at me, and even threw the half of hashbrown I'd handed her out the window as we were driving, because omg I'm just so greedy and she thought she was included even though we had pretty much established 'if you want to get me sandwiches, you can get me one more for the same price here, especially since they don't have them at this place." YOU WERE THE ONE WHO FUCKING BROUGHT UP BUYING FOOD, SORRY IF I ACCEPTED AND COULDN'T READ YOUR MIND.
So whatever, I finish my food, chill out, she takes me to school later, everything's peachy. Please note, I finished the last sammich by 8:30am (I got them at about 7:30 and those aren't super sammiches, so I was trying to take my time). Anyway, she takes me to class, I get out around 4. Because my brother gave her grocery/bill money, she's going to go get groceries when drivign me home. Now, see, I knew she hadn't told my one brother she expected him to pay a particular bill. I also knew that the xhundred bucks she was given that morning WAS FOR BILLS AND MAYBE TWENTY FOR FOOD. So I told her 'you're going to have to save some of that and give it back to him if you want him to pay on the card.' And I told her this several times. Still, not only do we go grocery shopping ,but oh, she wants a shake from Mcdonalds as we pass it on the way there! And since it's about 5pm by this point and I haven't had anythign to eat at all since 8am, I asked if I could get a couple of the dollar burgers. Yeah I shouldnt' have that much mcdonalds in one day, but once again, that's about all I ate that day, they were small, and I was about to be walking around a big store and doing all of that.
Anywho, we get in, we get all sorts of grocery stuff and I'm pretty much concentrating on the stuff I know my brothers will eat and trying not to get or spend too much. Meanwhile, Mom's buying lots of stuff in bulk, and I'm just staring at her like "seriously? We cannot afford all that! Why're you getting it, especially since it's going to be gone in a day?" Because bad impulse control and large appetites is pretty much in my bloodline, and ALL of my siblings do it, at least a bit, and so do my parents to some extent. Buying in bulk is a baaaaaaaad idea for us.
So after I get home with groceries at like 7, the brother from that morning sends me to the store. This is a standard for whenever he gets paid - he doesn't like walking to the store, so he sends me. I go get him smokes and a tea, and if he's in the mood, he gives me extra money and I walk down 4 blocks to get the two of us chinese for dinner. Today I ended up getting him his tea and his smokes, and getting snackfood for me (mm pepsi, chips and nacho sauce). So I was done eating for the day for the most part (and if I was gonna eat, it'd probably be a midnight snack). I also had to inform him when he was giving me the money, that he mayyyyy need to talk to Mom because she didn't seem to comprehend that yes, the xhundred this morning WAS THE BILL MONEY, he is not going to pay something on the credit card for you, BECAUSE HE GAVE YOU CASH.
Now, tonight, my other brother was able to cash his check after midnight, which he generally does because he needs smokes. Since he got his current job, we've formed a sort of habit of I'll go with him to cash his check, then the two of us go have a late-night dinner out and just chill (there's a 24 hour McDonald's drive-thru we go to sometimes, and there's also a Diner we like. We took the diner today). It's just a sort of sibling bond thing we do, and we try to keep it cheap for the most part. That brother knows he's paying bills (and that mom sucks with money so hard, so he's just taking some of them and paying them, rather than giving her a thing. Good plan, I say).
So, we get in, and it's like maybe 2am. Mom yanks open the door and is all annoyed with because omg I had food out 3 times today and it was restaurant food (she's not even on the unhealthy tangent. she's on the fucking PRICE tangent. And need I point out she was the one who suggested food the first two times, kthx). She's all like 'we have bills to pay and rar and just go to bed'. My brother later comments to me "Oh sorry, I wasn't aware I was supposed to spend my paycheck on hookers and blow."
Just uuuuuuurg. You know, I can understand telling me off because of my health and no, eating out three times in one day, particularly the places I ate, IS NOT GOOD FOR ME. IT'S NOT GOOD FOR MY HEALTH. Yes, I can understand lecturing me on that. Do NOT pull this bullshit about the money, particularly when I'm sitting here trying to make things work. You know my college refund? Yeah, the stuff that is supposed to be my spending money? Guess where it's fucking going? TO YOUR GOD DAMN BILLS MOM, BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO FLUNK OUT OF SCHOOL BECAUSE YOU CANNOT FUCKING MANAGE MONEY. Yeah, you know those two online courses? You know all those typed homework assignments and projects I have to research online? If we lose our electric or our internet, I AM GOING TO FUCKING FAIL. This is why you pay the bills first, before you go la-de-da on shakes, and buying bulk extra food. I can understand getting told no when I want to get something out to eat - you know what, NO IS AN ACCEPTABLE ANSWER. I'M AN ADULT, I CAN HANDLE BEING TOLD WE CANNOT AFFORD SOMETHING. But do not back and forth me on this shit.
And another thing - you may not think it's important to know what kind of brand of cigarettes my brothers smoke, but it is. There's a reason I stopped you when you almost ordered Paul's cigarettes for Chris today and made such a fuss over it. Buying 2 packs for Chris? 10 bucks at most. Buying 2 packs for Paul? 13-14. Cigarettes, milk, stuff like that is EXPENSIVE. You have to fucking pay attention to what you are spending. You can't just la-de-da and shove it off when you almost buy a ton of fancy ass brand cigarettes, versus buying the shitty knockoff ones. Chris smokes shitty knockoffs for a reason - THEY ARE CHEAPER. WE NEED THAT MONEY. You shouldn't be buying them smokes anyway but you're going to because you back and forth on that too.
So my one brother got paid this morning - cool whatever. She went with him because he gets money out of the atm in the morning and gives it to her for rent/bills. I went along a) cause I wanted to get out of the house and b) the atm's at wawa and that almost always guarentees a drink, regardless of what mom says. She said we weren't going to get any food or naything so I was like 'okay whatever' and just was along being quiet. As we're going to go check out - because she found boxes of donuts on sale for 2.99 - she's like 'are you going to get a sandwich or what?' and I blink at her a few times (Mom + Wawa apparently means "I am going to give you mixed signals". She did this to me last time too - she handed me a twenty, said NOT TO SPEND IT ON FOOD AT ALL, THIS IS NOT TO BUY FOOD AT WAWA IT IS ONLY FOR TRANSPORTATION, and then when I take my drink up to the counter with her, she tells me I'm paying for it with the twenty she just handed me. IS IT FOR FOOD OR ISN'T IT GOD DAMMIT?)
Anyway, so my brother points out also that the sandwiches are 2 for 3 bucks, so I look to see if they have the kind I like (I looooove sausage egg and cheese breakfast sammiches). they don't but we've got a mcdonald's right by us that kinda blows normally, but they at least do the breakfast sammiches okay and they're a buck for one (it's just the sausage but that's thep art I wanted anyway plus it's on a good biscuit rather than a bleh bagel). So I say "they dont' have my sammiches but if you really want to get me some, we can get 3 for the price they're giving 2 here, at mcdonalds." So we get there and I ask her if I'd be allowed to get a couple of hashbrowns. She's cool with it, whatever. Now, please note, she has not mentioned wanting food, up to that point. When she orders for us she almost always orders whatever she wants then whatever she's getting for me, and since she's driving, she always orders for us. Needless to say when she asks me as weird driving away if one of the sandwiches and one of the hashbrowns is for her.
Now, yes, me saying 'uh...no?' is a bit bad since she paid for it, but honestly, she got all angry at me, and even threw the half of hashbrown I'd handed her out the window as we were driving, because omg I'm just so greedy and she thought she was included even though we had pretty much established 'if you want to get me sandwiches, you can get me one more for the same price here, especially since they don't have them at this place." YOU WERE THE ONE WHO FUCKING BROUGHT UP BUYING FOOD, SORRY IF I ACCEPTED AND COULDN'T READ YOUR MIND.
So whatever, I finish my food, chill out, she takes me to school later, everything's peachy. Please note, I finished the last sammich by 8:30am (I got them at about 7:30 and those aren't super sammiches, so I was trying to take my time). Anyway, she takes me to class, I get out around 4. Because my brother gave her grocery/bill money, she's going to go get groceries when drivign me home. Now, see, I knew she hadn't told my one brother she expected him to pay a particular bill. I also knew that the xhundred bucks she was given that morning WAS FOR BILLS AND MAYBE TWENTY FOR FOOD. So I told her 'you're going to have to save some of that and give it back to him if you want him to pay on the card.' And I told her this several times. Still, not only do we go grocery shopping ,but oh, she wants a shake from Mcdonalds as we pass it on the way there! And since it's about 5pm by this point and I haven't had anythign to eat at all since 8am, I asked if I could get a couple of the dollar burgers. Yeah I shouldnt' have that much mcdonalds in one day, but once again, that's about all I ate that day, they were small, and I was about to be walking around a big store and doing all of that.
Anywho, we get in, we get all sorts of grocery stuff and I'm pretty much concentrating on the stuff I know my brothers will eat and trying not to get or spend too much. Meanwhile, Mom's buying lots of stuff in bulk, and I'm just staring at her like "seriously? We cannot afford all that! Why're you getting it, especially since it's going to be gone in a day?" Because bad impulse control and large appetites is pretty much in my bloodline, and ALL of my siblings do it, at least a bit, and so do my parents to some extent. Buying in bulk is a baaaaaaaad idea for us.
So after I get home with groceries at like 7, the brother from that morning sends me to the store. This is a standard for whenever he gets paid - he doesn't like walking to the store, so he sends me. I go get him smokes and a tea, and if he's in the mood, he gives me extra money and I walk down 4 blocks to get the two of us chinese for dinner. Today I ended up getting him his tea and his smokes, and getting snackfood for me (mm pepsi, chips and nacho sauce). So I was done eating for the day for the most part (and if I was gonna eat, it'd probably be a midnight snack). I also had to inform him when he was giving me the money, that he mayyyyy need to talk to Mom because she didn't seem to comprehend that yes, the xhundred this morning WAS THE BILL MONEY, he is not going to pay something on the credit card for you, BECAUSE HE GAVE YOU CASH.
Now, tonight, my other brother was able to cash his check after midnight, which he generally does because he needs smokes. Since he got his current job, we've formed a sort of habit of I'll go with him to cash his check, then the two of us go have a late-night dinner out and just chill (there's a 24 hour McDonald's drive-thru we go to sometimes, and there's also a Diner we like. We took the diner today). It's just a sort of sibling bond thing we do, and we try to keep it cheap for the most part. That brother knows he's paying bills (and that mom sucks with money so hard, so he's just taking some of them and paying them, rather than giving her a thing. Good plan, I say).
So, we get in, and it's like maybe 2am. Mom yanks open the door and is all annoyed with because omg I had food out 3 times today and it was restaurant food (she's not even on the unhealthy tangent. she's on the fucking PRICE tangent. And need I point out she was the one who suggested food the first two times, kthx). She's all like 'we have bills to pay and rar and just go to bed'. My brother later comments to me "Oh sorry, I wasn't aware I was supposed to spend my paycheck on hookers and blow."
Just uuuuuuurg. You know, I can understand telling me off because of my health and no, eating out three times in one day, particularly the places I ate, IS NOT GOOD FOR ME. IT'S NOT GOOD FOR MY HEALTH. Yes, I can understand lecturing me on that. Do NOT pull this bullshit about the money, particularly when I'm sitting here trying to make things work. You know my college refund? Yeah, the stuff that is supposed to be my spending money? Guess where it's fucking going? TO YOUR GOD DAMN BILLS MOM, BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO FLUNK OUT OF SCHOOL BECAUSE YOU CANNOT FUCKING MANAGE MONEY. Yeah, you know those two online courses? You know all those typed homework assignments and projects I have to research online? If we lose our electric or our internet, I AM GOING TO FUCKING FAIL. This is why you pay the bills first, before you go la-de-da on shakes, and buying bulk extra food. I can understand getting told no when I want to get something out to eat - you know what, NO IS AN ACCEPTABLE ANSWER. I'M AN ADULT, I CAN HANDLE BEING TOLD WE CANNOT AFFORD SOMETHING. But do not back and forth me on this shit.
And another thing - you may not think it's important to know what kind of brand of cigarettes my brothers smoke, but it is. There's a reason I stopped you when you almost ordered Paul's cigarettes for Chris today and made such a fuss over it. Buying 2 packs for Chris? 10 bucks at most. Buying 2 packs for Paul? 13-14. Cigarettes, milk, stuff like that is EXPENSIVE. You have to fucking pay attention to what you are spending. You can't just la-de-da and shove it off when you almost buy a ton of fancy ass brand cigarettes, versus buying the shitty knockoff ones. Chris smokes shitty knockoffs for a reason - THEY ARE CHEAPER. WE NEED THAT MONEY. You shouldn't be buying them smokes anyway but you're going to because you back and forth on that too.