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[blindguy02]

I got a call from my sister last evening. That was a big surprise. She doesn't call much these days. Well, she and her bo went their separate ways last weekend. So she's pretty bummed about that. My mom says I need to have a talk with her about the way she tends to call or want to talk only when she needs something. I've got to figure out how

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[midgetbubbles]

Hey,

it's up to you, but I'd leave the talk with your sister till she's feeling better...as you say, she'll be down right now, especially if he was her first bf so that talk will not go down well, maybe once she's moved on but as I say, it's your call.

Bubbles and Star

[blindguy02]

Hey,
I agree. I'll wait a while. I'd rather not talk to her about it at all because sis does love to argue over little things, and I detest confrontations. She's used to people tareing her down with verbal abuse, from what I hear. Thankfully, I'm not that well-versed in it. I think she may need some tenderness in her life. I speak that language quite fluently. At least I try my best to do so. lol!

[gonepostal2001]

It's hard to say what to do about your sister. It's not really fair the way she only contacts people when she needs something, but at the same time I think it's good the way she's willing to reach out to family for emotional support.

I'm always a little wary of drama in communities too. People will be having a friendly discussion, and then all of a sudden someone gets offended by the simplest thing. The next thing you know you get pages and pages of fighting!

[blindguy02]

Yeah, gotta watch out for that LJ drama! haha! I haven't had to deal with too terribly much of that. All my LJ friends are very mature and they never go for that stuff, but there's always someone in just about every community who loves to start trouble and watch the fur fly with a bag of popcorn in hand. I'd be the type of person to have many and many a sleepless night if I ever did anything like that.

[lizzibelle30]

The mods are pretty good about keeping the drama to a minimum in the SV community. It's not too bad as far as comms go. I just haven't been over there in a while since I usually work Thursday nights and can't watch the show :o)

[blindguy02]

Yeah, seems like a great place to hang out. I've got to remember to message the mods and see if they'll allow me to post episode reviews behind a cut and to the actual community. I've seen people linking to their own journals where their reviews are located, but I've never been any good at that copying/pasting stuff.

[lofty_chica]

Your distant sister seems like she has a low self-esteem, because she's been verbally attacked often. I think she needs you or just any one to give her some encouragement or confidence back in herself. ;>]

No LiveJournal community including Smallville shouldn't intimidate you. You're entitled to have your own feelings, thoughts, motives, morals, opinions, etcetera! If any one argues or becomes vile for you sharing your own view, then they should be more peaceful rather than creating a turmoil when they disagree something. ;>D

I don't know what's your weather like, but I kind of agree with you because mine has been also cyclic. Hahaha! ;>P

[blindguy02]

Yep, my sister does need more gentleness in her life. And you're right, I suppose I shouldn't be nervus about joining LJ communities either.
Oh certainly, our weather is very cyclic this weekend! It was about 40 degrees Wednesday evening and Wednesday night. Now the temperature has climed into the 60's! And this coming week, it's supposed to get cold again. haha!

[lofty_chica]

At least, she's receiving YOUR gentleness. You're making the difference to be the sweet person you are, for taking some time to hear her out through either circumstance she may be in. ;>D

Drama is what it is, caused by someone's misunderstanding in someone. Do you know how they say - don't take things for granted? Well, it's true. Forgive them but either laugh off or resolve their misunderstanding towards you. Either way, it should have a peaceful ending with one -or- one and the other. ;>P

My goodness! Your climate is getting the warmth! Mines going through the 40's and going back to the 20's or 30's. Springtime is slowly coming from where I live. Hahaha! ;>]

[blindguy02]

Thanks so much for the kind words!
You're right. When it comes to dealing with drama, I always go for a peaceful resolution. But I don't have to worry too much about drama because I never get involved in all that. haha! I try to be more of a mediator or a diplomat.
Oh wow, so it's getting colder where you live? I think our cold weather is returning on Wednesday. We didn't get any snow this year, which was rather disappointing, but there's always next year.

[fey_spirit]

If the phone call doesn't bother you, then why address it?
Maybe you need to tell your mother that you're fine - and you'll handle your cousin as you see fit.

On the other hand if you want to talk to you cousin and you just need a gentle way how about telling her how wonderful she is and asking if maybe you could make it a point to get to know each other better and spend time together when times are good too because you think it would be a lot of fun.

[blindguy02]

I brought up the phone call because regardless of my sister's intensions, I was glad to hear from her. I already told mom that I'd handle it my own way several days ago and haven't gotten around to writing about it.

[fey_spirit]

I hope I didn't offend.
I give advice - it's what I do.
That's the reason I wanted to be a psychologist once upon a time.

[blindguy02]

Oh not at all! You didn't offend me. You say you wanted to be a psychologist at one time? I think you'd be great at that.