Comments | blkrabbitofinle: I need to get this off my chest.

blkrabbitofinle

I need to get this off my chest.

Jun 15, 2009 17:11

A seventeen-year-old girl was attacked on a very central street in Wellington on Sunday morning, at about 3:20am. Some men drove up in a van, and one got out and assaulted her. She managed to get away and lock herself in a public toilet until they left ( Read more... )

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flyslip June 15 2009, 06:30:26 UTC

I agree. Who the HELL gave those FUCKTARDS the RIGHT to even THINK they could do whatever they like to her?

rynhaiiro June 15 2009, 08:34:17 UTC

That's horrible I'm so glad to hear that she got away.

It's a reminder to me... I used to walk into town 3am, 4am in the morning from Northland when I was 14/15/16...

It's fucking sick how some people think they can treat a life. A girl two streets over from me (george st) was on her way home, she was followed and raped in her doorway. Being told that really scared me off going to the library which is open till 11, because no one is out at the moment due to exam time.

disorderata June 15 2009, 10:22:00 UTC

D:

Of course. Let's ban any woman from leaving the house. Obviously they are only endangering themselves by appearing in public.

We cannot put the responsibility onto men to somehow, struggle in such a way that they should be able to resist the lure of an woman out in public.

You know, no, I don't think society as a whole even appreciates at all, how difficult it is to BE A MAN and... not only A) just conduct yourself in a dignified and courteous manner to any other person regardless of their sex, but B) TO NOT JUST CRUISE LOOKING FOR BODIES TO ABUSE.

We must make allowances.

thedisgrace June 15 2009, 21:02:46 UTC

Some people habitually put some fault onto the victim when they are shocked by the randomness of human cruelty. They want to believe that the victim made some mistake that they themselves wouldn't have made(or can avoid making in the future). It is a defense mechanism(rationalization, if I remember correctly), and it crops up because we don't really have an adequate method of dealing with the idea that harm can come to us without predictable cause.

So when victims of random and unpredictable crimes appear, for a lot of people the first thing their mind does to try to alleviate the anxiety it causes, is to look for a reason the crime might have been committed that removes the element of randomness from the event. In other words, it lets the person say 'Okay, so if I don't want this to happen to me I can just not do X,' and they feel safer as a result.

Doesn't make it better, but it is just a way of dealing with the situation.

blkrabbitofinle June 16 2009, 00:25:01 UTC

Yeah, you're bang on. Mostly -- I do believe some people are just misogynistic assholes.. but women especially, it is a way of feeling like you actually can avoid something unavoidable. We can't change other people, but you can control your own, and it's reassuring to think that you can just act 'right' and not come to harm.