Dude. That's gotta be frustrating. I mean, I'm open to relationships with people with a variety of different genitalia, but don't feel bad about not being into that. Some people don't date people who are taller than they are, or older. So you don't want to sleep with a guy who doesn't have a flesh and blood piece of meat? Might as well be up-front about it, that's what I figure.
I sometimes find myself attracted to straight guys, but then I realize that I want to BE them more than I want to DO them, and that never gets me anywhere.
I get the being attracted to the "overt" masculinity. The opposite is what attracts me to trans women, that sort of head-long "I AM WOMAN!" approach to femininity that you see a lot. That's a hell of a lot of fun. That, and they often take really well to my gentlemanly wiles, like holding doors open and that sort of thing. It's nice to be able to say, "you're a woman, and I respect you as one."
it's not that i'm not open to the idea of an experience, or even relationship, with a transman... I'm just confused as to what, exactly attracts me there... blah. i don't know. it's all so confusing. you'd think just being gay would be way easier.
So, maybe the unevolved thing here is notions of specific sexuality.
I'd be a fool to say i don't find women attractive, even sexually, on the occaision, but in a general circumstance, i prefer a man. with a penis. But is that all there is to my sexuality? Penis to Penis? haha
I'm relatively comfortable with the idea that my soulmate may not have the genitalia i've been certain i preferred all this time... it's just kind of confusing in the meantime.
Hear ye, hear ye, the opinion of Mark (for whatever little it may count):
Dude, people like who they like. If there's nothing wrong with liking someone based on their sex (e.g. I like girls because they're girls), there's nothing wrong with NOT liking someone because of their sex (e.g. I don't like guys because they're not girls). It seems like you're getting tied up in a knot over your feelings. Don't get me wrong, I fully support introspective thought at any time it's deemed appropriate. I just don't want you chastizing yourself on account of your preferences. I don't like yogurt; that doesn't mean I'll feel bad about it. As for the meat of the issue, I just take it as how you are.
By the way, I'm fine, and Iowa is still filled with corn and SUCK, so drop me a line once in a while or something. :-P
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I sometimes find myself attracted to straight guys, but then I realize that I want to BE them more than I want to DO them, and that never gets me anywhere.
I get the being attracted to the "overt" masculinity. The opposite is what attracts me to trans women, that sort of head-long "I AM WOMAN!" approach to femininity that you see a lot. That's a hell of a lot of fun. That, and they often take really well to my gentlemanly wiles, like holding doors open and that sort of thing. It's nice to be able to say, "you're a woman, and I respect you as one."
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I'd be a fool to say i don't find women attractive, even sexually, on the occaision, but in a general circumstance, i prefer a man. with a penis. But is that all there is to my sexuality? Penis to Penis? haha
I'm relatively comfortable with the idea that my soulmate may not have the genitalia i've been certain i preferred all this time... it's just kind of confusing in the meantime.
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Dude, people like who they like. If there's nothing wrong with liking someone based on their sex (e.g. I like girls because they're girls), there's nothing wrong with NOT liking someone because of their sex (e.g. I don't like guys because they're not girls). It seems like you're getting tied up in a knot over your feelings. Don't get me wrong, I fully support introspective thought at any time it's deemed appropriate. I just don't want you chastizing yourself on account of your preferences. I don't like yogurt; that doesn't mean I'll feel bad about it. As for the meat of the issue, I just take it as how you are.
By the way, I'm fine, and Iowa is still filled with corn and SUCK, so drop me a line once in a while or something. :-P
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