Question...

[blue_moon_child]

How much should one tell their boyfriend/girlfriend/partner? What's the line between being open and honest and saying too much? Do you think there are things that just shouldn't said? Is lying ever okay? Is "not mentioning" something just as bad?

All ideas welcome :)

Comments

[bad_gustav]

Wow, that's tough. I personally favor honesty. That being said, I don't hink you need to spill everything if it is not relavent to the current relationship. Things that do impact your partner should be shared, and partners tend to like to hear "everything", but I think there are things you need not blurt.

Good rule of thumb, if it will do more damage for them to find out later and know you didn't tell them, tell them.

[keimel]

I almost commented this morning on this. But I just couldn't find a way to make it sound right.

Honesty is the best policy. And a lie of omission is a lie of omission.

Of course, telling someone that you have a disease is different than telling them you have a penchant for gnomes or some such. And having an allergy to chocolate or problems with blood sugar levels is different from than a "this one time, at band camp.... " (or perhaps "This one time, at joust camp... " )

It's a judgement call for you, based on what you think of the other person you're considering sharing things with. And I'd be willing to guess that you won't get the choice right all the time. If you do, write a book and make a million.

Go with what the situation warrants, do your best to be open and honest with someone and hope for the best.

That's my $.02.

[human_typhoon]

it depends... is it hurtful? but then again, is it something that needs to be said? will that person be better for you telling them something, even though it may cause some pain??

i, personally, believe in truth... but it depends on how much trouble it will cause. sometimes it's best just to keep quiet. ^_~