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Mar 31, 2005 10:25

Jenny called me last night. Her husband wants a divorce because he says he doesn't love her anymore and she makes him unhappy. She wanted to go to counseling and he said he won't becuase he doesn't want to try to work things out. He still wants to be "friends" though. I feels so bad, I don't even know what to say to her. I wish there was something ( Read more... )

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xxxbbkxxx March 31 2005, 18:55:53 UTC

that's pretty bold for him to say something like that. you don't think he'll reconsider or at least regret his actions

blue_oblivian March 31 2005, 19:48:20 UTC

well, he told her he had been feeling this way for 2 years. They've only been married for like 3 and a half. I guess he's been thinking about it for along time and he is pretty set on his decision.

xxxbbkxxx March 31 2005, 19:53:00 UTC

it would've been nice if he had given her some clue about it right?

blue_oblivian April 3 2005, 06:35:09 UTC

OK I could have sworn I posted a long reply to this, I remember typing it out...weird.

Anyway they live in Texas but she was staying here (California) while he was in Iraq and she had just started getting benefits at her job, which paid pretty well and then quit to move back to Texas because he was getting sent home. I just think he could have told her before she quit her job and moved halfway across the country, since he had been thinking about it for so long, it's not like it was a new development. Now she's moving back here because this is where her family and friends are and she has to find a new job. Plus they have a 3 year old son which makes it even more sad :(

mariahcareyfan March 31 2005, 20:54:11 UTC

that's horrible. :(

blue_oblivian April 3 2005, 06:35:30 UTC

yah, Im so mad at him >_

jamais_heuruex April 1 2005, 01:42:31 UTC

Believe me, you being there for her to talk to is enough. You can't mend her marriage or her heart. When I got divorced the people who let me cry on their shoulders meant the most to me.

blue_oblivian April 3 2005, 06:37:19 UTC

Thanks, I know I can't really make her feel any better, that's just going to take time but I just feel like I don't know any of the right things to say. I guess just letting her know she can talk to me anytime and I'll listen is good?

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blue_oblivian April 3 2005, 06:38:58 UTC

I know, it makes me sad so I can't imagine how bad she feels :(

silent157 April 2 2005, 05:52:49 UTC

Kinda funny how such people wanna break your heart, rip it out, and always say they still wanna be friends. Ignorant if you ask me...

All you can do for now is just be there for her. I dunno why the hell someone would do something like that to her, and I know it'll be on her mind, so just hear her thoughts out n whatnot. You'll do fine...and even while you may feel like you wish you could do more at times...you're doing a lot already. Be strong...Jen too.

blue_oblivian April 3 2005, 06:45:48 UTC

I know the whole thing about still wanting to be friends seems selfish too. It's as though they don't want to feel too bad for breaking your heart so they figure if they still let you stay in their life you won't be as hurt and it will ease their conscious. Blah, or something along those lines :P

I don't know if I should call her to see how she's doing or wait for her to call me when she wants to talk? I know she'll be thinking about it constantly but I don't want to bring it up if she doesn't want to talk about it. We don't really talk on a regular basis but I consider her a really good friend. We've known eachother since we were 7 so we don't have to talk all the time to know that we are friends. I worded that really badly, but do you know what I mean?