This journal is not going away at least not at this juncture. I spent too much time on it. If people don't like it they can go pound salt
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I'd try to say something nice here... and talk about how at least I am not pissed off (I suppose you COULD be talking about someone else, but who knows, you've never been direct), but it's really pointless.... Your mind is set, and it's easier for you to beat up on yourself and think that everything is so awful and no one cares about you than to believe that people DO care about you.... And... I'm tired of doing as much -- the explaining.... so I've just given up. So, that's why you don't see it anymore.....
And... if only your friends were not the only ones putting any effort into the relationship... if there were some effort coming from the other side as well... Instead of just letting them burn themselves out spending all of their energy on the relationship only to have you throw it to the wind and complain that it's over, when they've burned out and you never put much effort into it in the first place.......
When I've been in a rough spot in a relationship with others, we've worked together to repair it... it drags a person down when they're the only person putting in an effort..... and eventually, they give up.
I have put lots of effort into things. Perhaps they were in the wrong areas though. Say I drive all the way to someplace all the times I do such to see people. After a while I figure why not do it the other way? How about they come to me? Not possible? Why not?
How much energy is spent in a relationship that's based on email (once a month at most) and me driving to them (at most three times a year)? Or phone calls every six months?
I however suspect what you are getting at - one of those dreaded D words.
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And... I'm tired of doing as much -- the explaining.... so I've just given up. So, that's why you don't see it anymore.....
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Instead of just letting them burn themselves out spending all of their energy on the relationship only to have you throw it to the wind and complain that it's over, when they've burned out and you never put much effort into it in the first place.......
When I've been in a rough spot in a relationship with others, we've worked together to repair it... it drags a person down when they're the only person putting in an effort..... and eventually, they give up.
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How much energy is spent in a relationship that's based on email (once a month at most) and me driving to them (at most three times a year)? Or phone calls every six months?
I however suspect what you are getting at - one of those dreaded D words.
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