Please don't take this the wrong way, but do you get bothered when someone tries to sympathize when you rant? I don't know how your conversation went with the forum people but when someone offers to be an "outlet" to you, I'm sure their intentions were well-meant. It's like, their way of saying you're not alone. (And wouldn't you feel better than say, someone who posts something on a forum for others to read and they don't get a single reply at all? Not even from a troll? Honestly I think that's much more depressing.)
But then again, I have also encountered people who offered to be "a shoulder to cry on" but then they proceed to talk about only their problems without listening to mine. Or it's just a blank nod that you get from them. I hate that too, if that's what you're talking about. People hardly ever mean what they say anymore. It's hard to find someone authentic. Yeah, living is pretty hard, especially making friends.
Hmmm... not, not always tbh. Sometimes it's nice. But I just posted a message in the 'How are you Feeling' thread to get out my thoughts, not really to have someone try and fix me. I've never spoken with the person before when they sent me a message, and I found it very offputting, because I've been on that forum for 2 years, and just now someone wants to 'be an outlet' so I found it very... discomforting, I guess? As in I don't want to start a friendship with someone based on them reading how depressed I was one day, if that makes sense. Just talking to someone to start a friendship on very personal issues (that can disappear in a couple of days) just seems like a bad place to start. I'd rather go through the 'oh, what are your likes' friendship phase than the 'Oh wow, you're severely depressed? Tell me about it!' like whoa, that's like, third date material, not first :V
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Oh for sure, that's definitely not how one forms a healthy friendship ahah. My guess is that people sometimes express themselves wrong when they encounter someone who feels just like them and they say something absurdly intense like "I WILL MARRY YOU" when you say you're lonely. Or they're one of those annoying social justice warriors who get high off of going around and 'fixing' people. Either way, I get what you mean. On a side note, though - do you ever find it that it's sometimes hard to find friends based on shared interests alone? I myself was on a forum years ago and after I posted an introduction, someone didn't appreciate a stupid joke I made and called me an attention whore -.- Bet you can't top that :P
Whatever it is, I'm not into it. But... ugh, whatever. People...
I find it incredibly difficult to make friends based on interests. It makes sense, I suppose. My way of writing isn't going to match up everyone's, but when you join a forum full of writers you'd think you'd make friends. Then, just, nope.
Ahahaha, I can maybe come close to that tbh. But that's pretty bad like wow.
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But then again, I have also encountered people who offered to be "a shoulder to cry on" but then they proceed to talk about only their problems without listening to mine. Or it's just a blank nod that you get from them. I hate that too, if that's what you're talking about. People hardly ever mean what they say anymore. It's hard to find someone authentic. Yeah, living is pretty hard, especially making friends.
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I find it incredibly difficult to make friends based on interests. It makes sense, I suppose. My way of writing isn't going to match up everyone's, but when you join a forum full of writers you'd think you'd make friends. Then, just, nope.
Ahahaha, I can maybe come close to that tbh. But that's pretty bad like wow.
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