I lost my mom too so I know how your friend feels...i know you might not want to hear this but crying really does help(for me anyways) for my mom I didn't talk to her like she was dying...she just wanted people to talk to her like they normally would....For Heather..when you call her or see her just let her cry...thats one thing that helped me get through it is just having someone there while I cried
i think you need to tell both of them things the things they want to hear. tell betsy about what is going on in your life. tell her that you miss her, and would like to come and visit her. maybe she will have some funny hospital stories to tell you. you could even tell her that you told me that she was sick, and that i met her once and thought she was an awesome lady and that i hope she's staying in good spirits.
with heather... you basically need to be there to listen, and to let her know that you will always be there to listen. when kurt died, that was the best thing.. having people around who wanted to listen, and who showed they cared. send a homemade card. everyone made me homemade cards, and i loved it. it was probably the best thing i could have received. and lots of comfort that kurt was in a better place, even though i already knew that, it was nice to be reassured.
let both of them know that they are cared for. that is #1 priority.. let them do the rest.
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for my mom I didn't talk to her like she was dying...she just wanted people to talk to her like they normally would....For Heather..when you call her or see her just let her cry...thats one thing that helped me get through it is just having someone there while I cried
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with heather... you basically need to be there to listen, and to let her know that you will always be there to listen. when kurt died, that was the best thing.. having people around who wanted to listen, and who showed they cared. send a homemade card. everyone made me homemade cards, and i loved it. it was probably the best thing i could have received. and lots of comfort that kurt was in a better place, even though i already knew that, it was nice to be reassured.
let both of them know that they are cared for. that is #1 priority.. let them do the rest.
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I've had to do this before with Paul,same situation..
I think the number one important thing is telling her that you love her and appreciate her.
god this is unbelievable..
I hope she isn't scared or sad..
she's such a good person.
call me?
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