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[bluemaple]

So I spoke to my mom last night and my Aunt Lucy did die.  Apparently, she had had several strokes and was in a nursing home.  She said she didn't think I was that close to her so she didn't call.  She didn't call to tell me that Aunt Grace had died either.  What's up with that?  I guess I don't rate.  Anyways, I invited her for Christmas since we

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[soranalani]

That's terrible. Sounds like she take advantage of you and is completely unreasonable. It sucks when you realize that you are more mature than your own mother. I am not a big believer in "you only give gifts if you receive them" cuz sometimes giving a gift is more about showing your appreciation for that person, but in this case, if she never exchanges gifts, perhaps you should just tell her that maybe you shouldn't do the gift thing at Christmas and instead go out for lunch or something. That alleviates that feeling of unbalance.

[bluemaple]

I guess it is what it is and it'll never change. Now that my mom is older, I really see the spoilt 3 year old coming out in her very often (she had a major kidney infection when she was 3, which was before antibiotics, and she convelesced on the couch being waited on hand and foot by her 7 brothers and sisters and mom & dad for 3 months!!) If wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have my in-laws to compare with. They are all about giving and never do they make you feel like they are looking to balance the scale. In fact we usually have to fight with them to give back!! It's just such a contrast and I can't help but like my in-laws and their attitude better than the grief I constantly get from my mom...and that's another whole kettle of fish! This year, I'm giving her a cross stitch that I did years ago of the Madonna that my dad made a frame for before he died. It was hanging in my bedroom but I've replaced it with something more pagan friendly and I think she would like this...not only for its religious significance to her but the

[rhia_rosamund]

Rant away, any time you want. Moms are the best at pushing all your buttons... probably because they installed them!

So sorry about your aunt... I hope you have a good catch-up with your cousin, at least...