Dating Advice for your College Self

[boffo]

It's been a while since I've posted, and I continue to be too busy doing work at work to post much. But I have time for some user-generated content, so I'll pose a question. (This was inspired by perich's post hereIf you could go back in time and give dating/romance advice to your 18ish-year-old self just as you were starting college, what would it be

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[evilbutcute]

I need to remind 32 year old self about this one.

[boffo]

Was that by choice or not?

If it was by choice, and you're happy with the decisions you made, I guess there's no advice to give.

[boffo]

Okay, let me rephrase.

What are some ideas about dating and romance that you understand now, that you think you would have been happier had you understood when you were 18?

[integreillumine]

You deserve someone who loves, respects, cherishes, supports, laughs and keeps up with you. For who you really are, deep down, scars and vulnerabilities and strengths and all - and for whom you feel the same in return. Most of the people you´ll meet aren´t that; they may be good people, but even the best of people can turn ugly or cold when needs aren´t mutually being met.

Oh, and breaking up with The Tool? Great idea. Don´t second-guess yourself, and don´t go back to him. Really. He´ll grow, and so will you, but you can do it without it costing you so much. You can, and will, do much, much better.

(Ok, that last bit may not be entirely general, but ´Tool´ can be general, right? ;)

[furfybird]

Dear Little Bird,
Keep following your heart, despite what the people around you think and say.
Your heart knows who he is.
~ Old Bird

[madbard]

AWWWW!!!

[starling321]

Quit sleeping with guys that with whom you've broken up. It's just not worth it. Move on. And quit "trying" to be friends, you're just torturing each other.

[magdalene1]

YES.