One is the lonliest number .. ; )
"...sometimes they come back." - One Tree Hill
...but usually they don't because they find someone "better" and unred headed, therefore more attractive, and not as tall, in other words perfect and they forget about the person as if they had never even known them at all.
After all if you don't remember all the little details that you knew about a person, did you ever really know those things at all?
Of course if the person who was abandoned would have been less redheaded, more athletic, shorter, nicer, smarter, more fun, hotter, etc... then the person would most likely have came back, or maybe not..
Maybe if this “abandoner” would have actually thought those things about the person they forgot about in the first place, thought all the things that they said that they did, or maybe if they would have just really loved them for who they were then they would have never seen those qualities in another person to begin with... and would have stayed. And then this whole coming back thing wouldn't be an issue at all.
If people leave to begin with, chances are there was a reason, and what would coming back be worth? If they were able to lose sight of the things that they saw in someone to begin with... who's to say that it wont happen again? Maybe, they lost sight for a reason, or maybe they just convinced themselves to feel a certain way about someone to feel less lonely, for a while, until they found something new, something more like what they were looking for.
"If it's real, if it's true love, then it'll always be there. You can pretend it's gone and even move on. But that love, it's still there. In the depths of your mind, sometimes a single object or song triggers it all and you're right back where you started. In the arms of the one you lost."
Whatever the case, they left for a reason, and that can't be ignored, because even if it something is forgotten, that something still did happen. It may be questioned, sure. Like if someone died but no one remembered that they really lived, they would have still existed? That kind of questioning. Questioning the existence of something does not make it really existent, or nonexistent for that matter.
If the feelings did exist no one can just pretend they didn't. Maybe that's what I did wrong to begin with anyways; maybe that's what everyone does wrong at some point in time. I guess feelings can get misconstrued. Feelings are the hardest things to detect and express, and identify, and feelings are the easiest things to fake.
A feeling that makes the person who left want to go back and start something over, might just be because they miss certain things about the past, miss certain things about a person, that they can't find in someone else. It doesn't mean they need those things, or even want them, but it was a part of their life at one point, so they'll always feel a void where those things used to find into their life.
One has to wonder when people come back is it for the right reason, and is their return really wanted? If there is a chance that they weren't supposed to be there in the first place.
They say that if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you, then it's yours... but if something's yours, wouldn't you hold onto it, wouldn't it hold onto you? Maybe if someone does come back it is meant to be, maybe, just maybe. Then again maybe it's just an illusion created in the mind, to give us some sort of security.
Love is just hoax right? No one could possibly be capable of loving another human being as much as they love themselves. Everyone’s just out to make sure they are happy, first and foremost even when in “Love”. Love is just a word that was created. It doesn't actually join two souls. It’s just an illusion that we create in our heads to make us feel connected to the rest of the world and no matter what we trick ourselves into thinking we are all more or less alone in the world. After all we ARE all alone in this world when it comes down to it. We were all born alone, and we will all die alone. None of us want to spend our whole live's desolate or in solitude, so maybe love is just that. It’s a compromise. Two people saying; "Hey there lonely, let's just be alone together for a while." what they don't mention is "till my "love" for you fades."
... to be continued