Mistakes were made, let's not forget.

[bookwyrm172006]

A long long time ago, my best friend and I liked the same guy and instead of letting her have him, I agreed to go halvsies on him with her

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[mdlbear]

Go you!

It's a pattern that I think is typical of an abuser. As usual, I'm here if you want to talk, or just rant.

[bookwyrm172006]

I'm kinda at the ranty stage of things. I'm mostly mad

[mdlbear]

No need to be mad at yourself -- he's a much better target, and it's always really difficult to tell that you're in an abusive relationship while you're in it. Especially the first time, and also because it starts gradually - the abuse doesn't start until you're already deeply involved in the relationship.

I'd suggest looking for other asexuals, so that sex isn't something that either of you is looking for in a relationship. (No good idea of how to go about finding them, but there might be some organizations you can join.)

[mdlbear]

No need to be mad at yourself -- he's a much better target, and it's always really difficult to tell that you're in an abusive relationship while you're in it. Especially the first time, and also because it starts gradually - the abuse doesn't start until you're already deeply involved in the relationship.

I'd suggest looking for other asexuals, so that sex isn't something that either of you is looking for in a relationship. (No good idea of how to go about finding them, but there might be some organizations you can join.)