Thoughts on forgivenessfinallyjustmeDecember 29 2005, 21:14:16 UTC
You are right when you say that mourning, regret and pain will never stop if revenge is sought. Essentially, forgiveness isn't for the person who hurt me but for myself. It is really the only way we can truly begin the process of letting go. Forgiveness, in one way, means to finally let go and not let the those that transgressed against us have power over us any more by keeping us binded to them with anger.
Many think that forgiveness is meant to tell the offending party that what they did was no big deal, that it was okay, and to pretend it didn't happen. However, in no way does forgiving negate what was done. Forgiveness also does not equate relationship and trust.
As far as bravery is concerned, I have come to see that what I once thought was showing weakness is something completely different. This may just be relative. I am constantly told that I am strong even though at times I feel like a small animal in a predator's line of vision.
Myths, both modern and old, can help illustrate and elucidate the human experience better than just rationalization or talking alone.
To add to your bravery comments, something that's oft neglected in modern culture is a few bits I've picked up from a piece of fiction I've been reading myself.
Just a few comments to think about..
"Most men would rather turn than face a hard truth." Facing truths about ourselves, our family, and especially our reality is hard. Especially when it goes against preestablished "truths."
"Being fearless is not being courageous. Being courageous implies that you act in spite of your fear. Being fearless means you are without fear."
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Many think that forgiveness is meant to tell the offending party that what they did was no big deal, that it was okay, and to pretend it didn't happen. However, in no way does forgiving negate what was done. Forgiveness also does not equate relationship and trust.
As far as bravery is concerned, I have come to see that what I once thought was showing weakness is something completely different. This may just be relative. I am constantly told that I am strong even though at times I feel like a small animal in a predator's line of vision.
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To add to your bravery comments, something that's oft neglected in modern culture is a few bits I've picked up from a piece of fiction I've been reading myself.
Just a few comments to think about..
"Most men would rather turn than face a hard truth."
Facing truths about ourselves, our family, and especially our reality is hard. Especially when it goes against preestablished "truths."
"Being fearless is not being courageous. Being courageous implies that you act in spite of your fear. Being fearless means you are without fear."
More to come..
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