What I find useful is to imagine going back in time and giving tiny-me a hug and letting them know that actually, it's awesome to have knowledge and someday a lovely lady will marry you for her love of your mind being just that sharp.
I did that with the loss of a ring, in a riding school. I was so upset and ashamed I couldn't even tell my mum about it for months, until the flooring of the school would have been changed and it was gone forever. It was a silly ring, not even silver! When that pain comes back, I think of myself telling tiny-me that actually it didn't matter and that there would be many rings to come which were far more beautiful than that.
I was thinking this morning that, if the much-delayed Manual of Life ever appears, there should be a chapter which is just a page that reads "Shame and fear fix things in your memory more strongly than anything else. Correct accordingly".
Also I'm aware every workday that you are both smart and good at the application of smart, with people of (wildly?) varying levels of smart.
Oh. The reason why it was a bad thing was that I spoiled it for everyone else. Clearly not a good thing, but possibly not the life-marring thing I have turned it into.
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I did that with the loss of a ring, in a riding school. I was so upset and ashamed I couldn't even tell my mum about it for months, until the flooring of the school would have been changed and it was gone forever. It was a silly ring, not even silver! When that pain comes back, I think of myself telling tiny-me that actually it didn't matter and that there would be many rings to come which were far more beautiful than that.
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Also I'm aware every workday that you are both smart and good at the application of smart, with people of (wildly?) varying levels of smart.
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