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Oh man, I feel for you. I don't have kids to add to the mix, but I feel for you. I went to a personal trainer/nutritionist about a year ago today and said "I need to do something, I just don't have any energy, I need to come up wtih a workout and food plan to get me on track so I can stop feeling just physically overwhelmed and mentally exhausted all the time. But when I told her what my usual day or week was like she laughed and said "Your problem isn't physical. Your problem is that you're trying to do too much. Anyone would be exhausted if she tried to do all that." So I'm telling you the same thing. There's no way in hell anyone could be expected to do everything that you expect yourself to do.
It seems to me that comparing your accomplishments with SAHMs is part of having unreasonable expectations. There's no way you can possibly be lazy if you're accomplishing everything that I know you're doing. I must say though, that with better organization the fear factor is less, and the perceived workload is less, even. Maybe you need less a nanny and more a personal assistant. I actually know someone who does that ... part child-watcher, part bookkeeper and part errand-runner and part therapist. It's a good job for him and I wish I could hire one, and I don't even have kids.
Your expectations of yourself are much higher than those of us who adore you even know to set them. We all know you rock with your socks, but you still think you need to be 17 people in one to rock. Ease up, woman. I hope you know I got your back.
Count your list by the things you did, not the things you still have left to do. And I knew you didn't expect anything from me to begin with. You are too busy expecting things of yourself to worry about expectations for anyone else.
The reason I was happy to sign up to the gifting is that the timescale is to get something done in 2009. I can do that... and there's a whimsy to the idea which seems a mile away from the concrete reality of to-do lists.
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I went to a personal trainer/nutritionist about a year ago today and said "I need to do something, I just don't have any energy, I need to come up wtih a workout and food plan to get me on track so I can stop feeling just physically overwhelmed and mentally exhausted all the time. But when I told her what my usual day or week was like she laughed and said "Your problem isn't physical. Your problem is that you're trying to do too much. Anyone would be exhausted if she tried to do all that." So I'm telling you the same thing. There's no way in hell anyone could be expected to do everything that you expect yourself to do.
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I must say though, that with better organization the fear factor is less, and the perceived workload is less, even. Maybe you need less a nanny and more a personal assistant. I actually know someone who does that ... part child-watcher, part bookkeeper and part errand-runner and part therapist. It's a good job for him and I wish I could hire one, and I don't even have kids.
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Your expectations of yourself are much higher than those of us who adore you even know to set them. We all know you rock with your socks, but you still think you need to be 17 people in one to rock. Ease up, woman. I hope you know I got your back.
Count your list by the things you did, not the things you still have left to do. And I knew you didn't expect anything from me to begin with. You are too busy expecting things of yourself to worry about expectations for anyone else.
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The reason I was happy to sign up to the gifting is that the timescale is to get something done in 2009. I can do that... and there's a whimsy to the idea which seems a mile away from the concrete reality of to-do lists.
I hope you can have a good vacation.
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