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[breenagentry]

so I email my dad about what I just posted and I want his advice.

What do I start to do?

Cry. I am crying at the fact I have to go to an outside source (LJ doesn't count, no one really comments ;-P) instead of being able to talk to mom.

All I can say: I am glad email isn't able to contain tear drops.

Only the keyboard gets that abuse.

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[breenagentry]

It's okay. I just needed to vent. I just hate the effect my emotions have one me.

Thanks for the hug, though. It will helpl.

[rowanjan]

I don't know how to ask this..

Is your mom an alcoholic? My dad was, and it completely drove my relationship with him. I never knew from one minute to the other how he was going to behave, ESP after I turned 11 and he began "steady" drinking. Before then, it was a weekend thing.

Look up the classic signs of an alcoholic. From what I just read, your mom hits all but about three of them (Amnesia, Denial, and refusal to talk about it.) She might hit those too.

Hon, if she is an alcoholic, there is NOTHING that you are doing wrong. You may want to check out some Al-anon websites (support for alcoholics' families.) They may be able to give you clues on how to handle these situations...

[breenagentry]

My dad was an alcoholic, and consequently died from it. I know that my mother has a predisposition to it due to both her parents and her temperment.

I have seen the signs and know how to recognize them. Unfortunately, I just don't know how to approach it. I am talking with my godfater (her best friend) about how to do this whole thing.

When she drinks, she can remember a lot of things, but does have a tendancy to get that alcohol-amnesia. Denial, I don't think it's gotten to that part yet. She acknowledges she drinks and will quit for a while. But then she will go on a binge (fun, right?) and ignore that she is drinking too much. I just need to talk with her.

I will definitely check out those sites. Thank you.