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[brian_pa]

Maybe I will go back and respond to earlier comments sometime, but maybe not. I know this pisses off Justin and all the bitches. C'est la vie.

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[jans_intentions]

Maybe I will go back and respond to earlier comments sometime, but maybe not. I know this pisses off Justin and all the bitches. C'est la vie.

Um, no. I can't speak for Justin and I really think he shouldn't push you into answering something since it's supposed to be fun, you know, but speaking for myself I just miss you. Is that all right? You're funny and you make me laugh. Or sometimes you say things that make me think.

Just like the writer who decides to teach part-time and write "on the side" part-time, it's all too fucking easy to use up your energy and ambition in the day to day bullshit.

I have no idea how this conversation will play out, but I love what you said to him.

I guess I'm a stand-out on this one, but I don't really see why he has to go to school if he's not enjoying it. Teaching to me seems like doing it to do something, not to simply be who he is.

But it's his choice.

Brian, as much as you would like him to stay, I think he wants to stay.

I'm really glad you had such a relaxing weekend. You both deserved

[brian_pa]

Justin must make his own decisions. Sometimes I unduly influence him. Sometimes I even know that I'm doing it.

Yes, he wants to stay. I'm just not a great believer in that elusive word "forever." No matter the speaker nor the context.

[lady_jane]

Good lord, I barely recognized the soul-baring partner in your comments to Justin. I'm sure others will practically weep over the beauty that is your supportive nurturing side.

I'll just say that Justin's very fortunate to have someone support him while he pursues his passion. Most of us don't have that luxury, and have to plug away at crap waste of times to pay the bill if we don't want to take out loans with insane interest rates (don't mind me, I'm a tad bitter over the situation, since, you know, it's all about me) - however, I can understand his hesitation in not pursuing that route. While I agree with you, he doesn't have to stay in school to do what he wants, allowing you to pick up the bills is a surrender of a certain type of control. While this will most likely not be long-standing, there are no guarantees, and I can see Justin's hesitation. While he'd be working toward his goals, it could still feel too much like playing housewife - and he'd start to feel beholden to you in ways he may not be comfortable with. For

[brian_pa]

Bet you recognized me LATER in the day.

[lady_jane]

Let's see, relaxes and opens up emotionally and then has meltdown... yep, sounds more like it.

Justin's acting weird lately though. Clinging is not like him.

Face it, you're both freaks.

[lady_jane]

ps - I mean that in the most freak-loving way possible.

[armandyouidiot]

Go Brian! What a wonderfully supportive partner you are. I love how you recognize his talent and his needs.

[brian_pa]

I recognize his talents. I can't preach to him what his "needs" are. That does not, of course, stop me.

[shadownyc]

It's terrific how you reassure Justin about his natural talent...for painting. I do think that Justin needs to decide whether grad school is worth going into right away.

As far as a commitment to you, I don't think that was ever in question. I'm sort of surprised that you started getting paranoid about that.

[justin_nyc]

Thank you!

[shadownyc]

Hey Brian, what happened to being supportive. It seems like you're getting hyper-sensitive and reading more into Justin's words than are actually there.

I also don't think that walking away is productive, especially if Justin's asking you to stay.

[brian_pa]

"Walking" and "walking away" are two vastly different things.