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[bridgemus]

Scenario:

A guy really likes a girl. The girl does not like the guy at all. The girl tells the boy that she just wants to be friends. The boy asks the girl if she wants to go to dinner, and then when they are out to dinner, he buys for her.

Is this a date? Answer from the guy's or girl's or an outsider's position

Comments

[mrsluttypants]

No, i don't think it's a date because they both know that the girl just wants to be friends. I think it's just a friendly gesture. Like Beth pays for dinner for me sometimes, and that not a date!

[lenatheraven]

no, I go out with Eli on occasion and Travis has bought me dinner, and he's gay, and Tiffany has taken me out, but she is straight.

As long as one doesn't consider it a date, it isn't.

Much like sex, if one isn't consenting, it isn't sex, it's rape. Bad example, but clearest I could come up with.

Answer: yes. Reason: 99.9% of guys are fucking scum-bags.

[thatboomerkid_1]

Okay, it's like this, kid: imagine a monkey.
Like, a really cute little funny monkey wid big ears and a stoopid grin.
Now imagine that this monkey is higher than a fucking kite on god-only-knows-what assortment of high-powered mood-&-perception-altering drugs.
Now imagine that this monkey slips & falls out of a REALLY tall tree and cracks his big-'ol monkey-noggin on solid, unforgiving Terra Firma.
Now, he opens his eyes, our little monkey friend, and he is confused - he knows nothing, comprehends nothing, understands only partially only what he directly percieves directly before him, through a haze of powerful chemicals and back-logged instinct and fleeting memories of some basic level of socialization and his own (admittedly intense) intellectual limitations.
Now, the first thing that this monkey's eyes fall upon, he will desire with all his might - this, he thinks, will cure the pain in my head and clear my vision & finally give clarity to the world, be it a banana or a girl-monkey or a beer or sports or violence or

Re: Answer: yes. Reason: 99.9% of guys are fucking scum-bags.

[bridgemus]

Finally the answer I was looking for... you rock my fucking world, Boomer. Now my problem is getting it to fall before the right eyes, but I'm sure that will happen soon enough. ::muah:: Thank you

Re: Answer: yes. Reason: 99.9% of guys are fucking scum-bags.

[cerulean_dreams]

Gee, thanks a lot! She won't listen to my two friends because they don't give her the answer she is looking for. The girl in this situation is me. And Greg is my friend. He knows for a fact that I do not want a relationship because I tell him EVERY time that we hang out. He never asks, I just let him know.

The only reason he pays for me EVERY NOW AND THEN (not always) is because I am constantly broke and do not want to spend my hard earned cash on anything but gas money to get me down to WIU. He knows this. So, whenever he is truly bored, he calls me and we hang out. He pays if we go anywhere because it was his decision to go out in the first place. Get it? Still think this is the same problem? Or does Bridget have another monkey on her back?

Who knows, but I love her anyway.

Woah, didn't mean to step on any toes.

[thatboomerkid_1]

My retraction & self-debasement follows: as the information was presented at the time, and in an angry state of mind, I gave some questionable-quality introspection and advice.
Upon further consideration, I have come to the realization that I have no idea what in the hell I'm talking about, and will promptly shut the fuck up.
Especialy considering that I, to be perfectly honest, don't know you, don't know your guy-friend, and barely even know Bridget.
Also: no, Brigdet has no back-moneky . . . that I KNOW ABOUT. My investigation begins . . .
Anyhoo: In my defense: I think that I perhaps DID conclusively prove that guys, even when well-intentioned & articulate, are simple-minded, rage-ful, petty and self-obsessed.
So there you have it.
So on the off chance that I was completely wrong AND that this guy is a much better dude than 99.9% of us, I say that you can accept an occasional meal from a guy and assume that he's not secretly pining over you.
But, and I'll re-iterate, I might be wrong.

[abernkl]

no offense to beth, and i adore you deary... but yeah, i'd say this is a date because the guy paid, and whenever i go out with guys that ... whenever i used to go out with guys I'd pay for myself because I'd always feel werid having a guy i'm not dating pay for me... but then again, i feel weird having a guy i am dating pay for me, so maybe i'm just useless when it comes to this question