Lets be proactive

[brightroar]

I have a question.  It's a fairly important question, so if you think you have an answer, no matter how far outside the box it may lie, please respond anyway.  Please try and be honest.  I think anon posting is allowed on my LJ and I don't log IP addresses so go crazy.

What am I good at?

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[silent_wrong_me]

You're good at looking good. Being attractive, or i suppose seductive. You can argue that this is something your body is good at, not you, but it's hard to seperate the two. Besides, there are women that look better than you that don't get what you get, because they haven't the personality

You get people to open up, you disarm them. People like talking to you and consequently like to hear what you have to say. Even people you sometimes try to alienate still like you. That's a skill above and beyond most peoples

[silent_wrong_me]

(don't kill me)
Weaknesses? always more difficult.
I know what i want to say, just not sure how to say it.

Lack of drive? You always seemed reasonably happy with either not having a job or not having a GREAT job. That can come through to potential employers. Enthusiasm for work itself helps you get it.

Over powering. You have a forcefull personality, which doesn't work in every situation.

If anything springs to mind, will let you know

[brightroar]

That's... Hmm. Disappointing I guess, that I came off like that. I've been about a million miles away from happy with job situations since moving to Lancaster, but it didn't really affect my day-to-day lifestyle (aside from having fuck all to do all day, which got maddening, which was part of the reason I ended up doing shitty temp work for something to do). The whole reason I'm starting to really look at this in depth is cos I realised I dind't want to be doing a 9-5 admin job for the rest of my life, so I need to find something I'm good at and will enjoy (as much as somebody can enjoy a job, anyway). The massive gaps in my education and qualifications are going to be a problem, so I expect I'm going to need to throw myself back into education for a bit

[silent_wrong_me]

Perception is half of it i am afraid. From a employers/personal point of view, if i see a capable attractive and articulate young woman not in a good job i can only assume it's because you don't want one/can't be bothered. That puts us in a certain mindset.
Skills/qualifications/experience can all be forgot by raw passion and a good attitude.

[luvlymish]

In addition to what Mike said, though ethically we may look at situations somewhat differently, you are a good judge of character.

[brightroar]

Could you expand on this at all?

[luvlymish]

You take the measure of a person very quickly, and usually pretty accurately. I would take a guess that you're rarely surprised by a persons actions and motivations behind those actions.

[brightroar]

Cool, thank you.

[lentilthelegume]

You're very good at saying what you mean. You have the courage to be yourself regardless of what other people might think and you know how to fight your corner.

[seeker_dreamer]

I never got to know you very well in Lancaster, but I do agree that you are attractive, in the "drawing-people" sense of the word as well as pretty, and you have a presence, in that people pay attention to you when you put your opinion on the table.

[brightroar]

That's definately some meaty food for thought, thank you.

Good idea on the counter question, I hadn't thought of it *goes to edit original post* - guess that's my first weakness right there, ego!