I need some help

[bringlebrite]

I don't know what to do

Comments

I hear ya.....

[neo_phantasm]

I had a similiar situation with someone last year when a close relative died. What I kept in mind was that the person needs a friend more then anything else. Although there was a history between this person and I, it was better to just be there as a shoulder than anything else.

And not to sound like an asshole, but what occured for the two of you to be done and over has no bearing on anything else, be it the death of a relative or whatever. I hope this may help a little. Just hang in there.

[fn]

Beware the Relapse... it really comes down to how strong do you think you are?

Being a good and supportive FRIEND would be the right thing to do. But you have to remember the terms to which your relationship came to an end. For those reasons, being there as a FRIEND is the right, and should be the only thing, you should be.

[mellymel_]

Not to sound heartless, but... send a card with a heartfelt note. Especially considering what you said happened when you were visiting his mom. Your loneliness paired with his grieving sounds like a recipe for RELAPSE!! Stay AWAY!

[gbhippychick]

I agree w/ mel..Stay away! Send a really nice flower arrangement, and/or a card.

[anonymous]

Ditto, ditto, and ditto! What they said!

If you're lonely, call one of us to talk! I would actually like to hang out sometime (I'm now in the new bachelor's pad too) but I'm going to be in Toronto until Abbifest.

Jeff

[penguin_hunter]

I think I agree with Mel, if you are feeling lonely it could be a bad thing for you to be right there at the grieving time. I can certainly understand your wanting to be there, because of past relationships. But it is possible to be helpful from a distance too.