OK, since I’ve been mulling this over myself recently…
How does everyone else classify themselves? What’s your tribe? Do you have more than one? Is your sense of tribe/in-group based on gender? Race? Class? Educational level? Field of employment? Subcultural affiliations? Political orientation? Sexual orientation? Something I’ve completely missed? A ( Read more... )

            I find the whole idea of tribes, and of the way people categorize others into tribes, fascinating. Part of the reason for that is that I’m very much aware of my own tendency to divide people that way. It isn’t in the way most people do, though, and that’s what keeps me interested in the whole subject.
            Take the thing I posted ( Read more... )

            First off, this isn’t going to be one of those reports that’s all about what I was wearing and how everyone else sucked except my cool friends and me and OMG the Lolitas! Because really, it’s a concert, not a prom, so why should anyone really care about any of the superficial stuff?
            Dir en grey were amazing last night. I’m ( Read more... )

So, next week I’m going to see my favorite band. One the one hand this is a wonderful thing. I love live shows, I love Dir en grey. So what am I complaining about?
There are children going to these shows. I don’t mean 17-year-olds, I mean actual children. Whose brilliant idea was it to make this tour all-ages? Because my foot has a date with their ( Read more... )

I've been mulling this post over for a while, what I wanted to say, how to say it. I'm still not sure it's going to make any sense to anyone else, but what the hell, it's worth a shot.

I'm trying to find a way to describe where I fit on the spectrum of sexual orientation, and of gender identity, and it's not easy. On the surface, to anyone who doesn ( Read more... )

Why is my cat sleeping in his food? By which I mean, he is sleeping with his body curled up next to his food bowl and his head actually resting in the bowl is if his food was a pillow (I have tried to take a picture of this but he always somehow knows what I'm up to and runs off before I can get a clear shot). For anyone who's thinking "ew" I will ( Read more... )

For some reason I can't get into my Blogger account, which is anoying because someone left a really asinine "you're being so mean to the MRA acting like they don't have any valid points" comment and I want to reply to it.
So I'll do it here instead. MRAs do not have any legitimate complaints. None. Zero. The whole "divorce is so unfair because men ( Read more... )

I've been politely holding my tongue for a while in an attempt to be a good little team player, but you know what? That's not me. And I'm pissed off.

There seems to have been a strange outbreak of "I am the one true guardian of feminism and I'm here to tell you the rules" and you know what my response is? Bite me. And I don't mean that in a "fun" ( Read more... )

I wanted to post my own little riff on the "Things I Love About Myself" post that went up over at Feministe a few days ago. This is an amazing exercise, not least because so many women find it so hard to do.
I don't find it hard at all. I worry about saying that, because women aren't supposed to like themselves and it often seems to be assumed that ( Read more... )

A question from one feminist to some of her fellow travelers - What the fuck is wrong with you?

I am of course referring to the two recent hate-fests that broke out over at I Blame The Patriarchy. Before I get too far into this, let me make myself clear - I do not hold Twisty responsible for what other people choose to post in ( Read more... )