A Life Re-Evaluation. Part 1

[britrock37]

Those of you who know me well know that I think I'm pretty f-ing great.  But...not in one of those ways where I think I'm better or worse than any other person.  More in the way that I learned to love myself in order to be happy and feel like I have value in the world

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[nylorac15]

Oh my god, I do the exact same thing. Seriously. Over the past couple years I've tried to cut back on personal anecdotes for the same reasons. I've moved more towards constructing metaphors that are similar to how I'm interpreting what the person is going through, then sharing it with them, with the hope that they'll correct me if I've still got it wrong. That way I remove any and all appearance that I'm "making it about me", but I'm still verbally processing what they're going through, and hopefully confirming with them that I've got it right.

I mean, of course I still think of comparisons to my own life, but I just don't share them. That's the line I walk between changing my behavior (not hard), and changing myself (impossible).

I've never asked anyone close to me if they've noticed a difference, or if they appreciate the change, but I've had smoother conversations of late when discussing tough personal subjects, so I'm hoping it's a step in the right direction.

No matter what, good luck. <3

[britrock37]

Thanks! And I really like how you started the comment with "Oh my god I do the exact same thing!"

An irony that I can appreciate!!

Good to hear your thoughts. And that I'm not alone in this. I like your ideas for changing the behavior but not yourself. Very helpful!!!!

[nylorac15]

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Advice fail!!! Wow, did I miss that one. >_<*