I think the reason this whole scenario fascinated me so much was because I'd always been on the outside looking in as well. But now that I'm suddenly on the inside (according to others), I really wondered how that happened. I mean, first off, it's just freaky-ass weird to me that people think of my girlfriends as a group they'd want to be a part of. We're just a collection of nerds and dorks ourselves. Heck, by and large, we're overweight, middle-aged moms and cubicle workers. How the heck did we get considered by ANYONE as the "cool kids" who won't let you hang out with their special crowd. It just boggles the mind
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I think a big part of the negative connotation of cliquishness is that certain cliques are *closed*, and define themselves that way, especially when those same groups have some sort of power within their social environment.
Another problem occurs when the in-group recognizes some people's contributions, but not others'.
Fezziwig's is cliquish, definitely, but it's generally pretty open. We *are* better than non-Fezziwiggers, but almost anyone can become a Fezziwigger if they're willing to do what it takes. Some people aren't so willing.
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Another problem occurs when the in-group recognizes some people's contributions, but not others'.
Fezziwig's is cliquish, definitely, but it's generally pretty open. We *are* better than non-Fezziwiggers, but almost anyone can become a Fezziwigger if they're willing to do what it takes. Some people aren't so willing.
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