Big Update - Part Two: Romance, Sex, and Life

[brother_justice]

So, we revealed that I have been and still am, on occasion, a lying asshole. And I revealed my dirty little sordid past to be true, just more abbreviated, generally speaking. So, let's get down to the nitty gritty for this part.

RomanceI've spent a great deal of time thinking about romance lately. Of course, watching Kevin Smith movies repeatedly

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[themoocow]

I don't believe you can, unless you have some sort of co-dependency or obsession issues

It's kept my parents together for 35 years. ;)

So what do you call yourself when you are a Romantic Dreamer, but you find yourself believing the Dream will only ever be a Dream, and not Reality? Anybody?

I call it Cynical Romantic. That's how I label myself, and your description of yourself pretty much mirrors mine (if I were as eloquent).

Fair enough

[brother_justice]

Like I said in the posting, more power to them. My own examples of married life is 50/50 for staying together.

Not a bad label there Moo. I'll take your label, you take my description, deal? :)

[instantcash]

Then there are those of us who believe commitment is not needed. Just being together is enough.

You're Alive!

[seafarer]

So what do you call yourself when you are a Romantic Dreamer, but you find yourself believing the Dream will only ever be a Dream, and not Reality?

The Dream is Reality! The Reality is a Dream! It's a world of gray, Bro_J, and we're all a mishmash of black and white. Your rigid expectations and definitions are a welcome surprise to my ordered, b&w-loving ass! Some days I'm lucky to catch sight of the Dream in the Reality before me. Other days my Reality is Dreamy. A balance would be boring, although easy. The seesaw keeps me alive and working my ass off.

How do you realistically tell yourself in this modern world that you can legitimately commit to one person, and one person wholly and completely?You can't. Be poly

Re: You're Alive!

[brother_justice]

You and I have already talked about the poly angle in the past. I'm thinking more and more it's the best option for the large majority of the population. Though the likelihood of it being accepted by society at large is rather small, as far as I can imagine. Then again, it's all a moot point really. Being poly would require me to actually date anyone or even attempt to do so. Oh, and being physically attractive might help as well. ;)

Or just lots and lots of alcohol before, during, and after dates. :)

Re: You're Alive!

[seafarer]

Oh, and being physically attractive might help as well.

That's bullshit and you know it.

Re: You're Alive!

[brother_justice]

Remember those moments we talked about with being too serious? That's what the smileys were for. It's a slightly self-offensive joke meant for motivation. Just some self-depravation. No worries. :)

[angelkai]

How can you conciously? I don't know if you can. With the right person though you just find yourself missing them over a few hours, being miserable apart for a week, and you kind of fall into a place where its so hard to imagine them not being with you and you still being happy. Maybe some people look for their ideal, me, it was just more someone who could finish my sentences, knew just what to say and what to do, and damn if that wasn't nice

[eliahad]

Yeah, but there's always going to be that one person who leaves everyone else behind. Me? I found the person who I can spend the rest of my life with. She's not the prettiest in the entire world, she's not the funniest in the entire world, she's not the smartest in the entire world. But hell, I'm none of those things either. That's why we love each other, I think, because we're both flawed.

We are, however, the people who can jump in bed at the end of the day and then talk for another two hours because we just didn't say everything we needed to all at once. We laugh at each other for the stupid stuff. And I'll be damned if I want it any other way.

[brother_justice]

To both you and Kai and the rest, Eli, I say more power to you. Without at all sounding offensive...how do I put this? It seems like a bit of a plea bargain to me. A sort of early opting out of the whole romantic mess. While I truly want to believe in meeting your True Love!tm as some of you seem to have done, it also seems unworkable. I mean, Christ, my ideal partner would be somewhere along the lines of John Cusack, Kevin Smith, Mickey Rourke, Christopher Walken, Joey Lauren Adams, Janine Garafolo, Sigourney Weaver, and Mira Sorvino. Now I ain't stupid, but that's a bit of a tall order. ;)

So...I just don't quite see how finding someone else and settling with them would work without simply being me settling for less. Then again, using my typical logic, I'm not sure there's much point in even looking. It's been two...no, three years, since I dated or was involved in any real type of relationship. I seem to be getting along okay without it. *shrugs* I don't know if any of that made sense.

[trollbabe]

[quote]How do you realistically tell yourself in this modern world that you can legitimately commit to one person, and one person wholly and completely?[/quote

[brother_justice]

Hah! Leave it up to the trollbabe. Marriage as an IPO. That just made my day. Nicely done, B. :)