Comments | brother_justice: Blargh

brother_justice

Blargh

Jun 12, 2007 04:37

When did it become a bad thing to speak honestly about something you care about? I guess it's just me, but I prefer brutal honesty. If there's problems in something, I discuss them openly. So, why does that often seem to be viewed as being constantly negative or only tearing something down? If I'm discussing something frequently, spending money to ( Read more... )

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trollbabe June 12 2007, 09:44:28 UTC

I think honesty is excellent, and something we should aspire to at all times ( ... )

brother_justice June 12 2007, 10:20:38 UTC

Nah, I'm online plenty. Just not on LJ. ;)

You just stopped giving the love to AB and BD, so I appear to be all sneaky and shit. Really though, the thought of me managing to be sneaky is just damn funny.

thatdv8 June 12 2007, 10:14:55 UTC

I have to lean towards Thorn's point; honesty is a positive thing, brutality isn't. Don't mix the two up because the brutality will take away from the honesty. You're always going to have to tailor your message to the person you're trying to reach. If you don't, willingly, then you accept, willingly, that your message might be misinterpreted, which kind of defeats the purpose of saying anything at all.

brother_justice June 12 2007, 10:27:22 UTC

Look, I'm not talking brutal honesty in the vein of "Does this dress make me look fat ( ... )

brother_justice June 12 2007, 10:29:06 UTC

Oh, one more note. The whole brutal part of the honesty thing? Rarely applied to others, mostly applied to myself.

thatdv8 June 12 2007, 11:18:08 UTC

I can't say that I'm one of the people that considers you a goth twit, and I know you were a lot unhappier way back when. I think certain people started taking things more seriously and now can't see past the abbrasiveness, you know.

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cazmonster June 12 2007, 17:20:59 UTC

Here's my deal with brutal honesty. It shuts down the other side of the conversation. I've got real problems when it looks like people are so upset about something that they resort to using the sort of strong language I equate with being mad about something. It makes the conversation more hostile.

I admit, I say things often that folks can take out of context. Often, I'm trying to be funny. But there are times when I am too abrupt for others to continue. But I do not intend to shut other folks down. I do try to include language like "I feel" or "in my opinion".

Honesty is fine. Honesty like you're trying to pick a fight, I'll pass on.

brother_justice June 12 2007, 23:41:40 UTC

Except for the part about cursing, I get the rest. I curse like a sailor, and quite a bit fucking more. Most of my family does. It's way too ingrained for me to try and make some change to it now. Well, that and I like cursing. ;)

If I'm not cursing...then I'm probably angry. :D