You said it yourself. THEY get THEMSELVES into situations where you have to help them out. It's a double edge sword, because while you are helping them get out of whatever mess they get into you are digging a bigger hole where they will never learn anything other than, "It's ok, Barbara will help us out." They are adults like you said, it's time that you do the best thing for them at let them find out what really being an adult is like. As for you, you need to find out what being a single 25year old is like. It's time for all of you to act your age. <3
I really have no solid advice any better than what has already been given here, but I wanted to comment to cheer you on!
I also feel like all I do is whine on LJ about things I don't want to talk about with RL people involved, but I'm trying to get better about posting happy things too!
Maybe you could spread your 50 state trip over a few years and visit 15 states at a time :P
I had a friend in college who was in a similar situation, and she ended up with a nervous breakdown, of sorts. I know you're near the end of school, and asking for help is hard, but you should definitely do that. You can do it! And you should be able to have the trip of your dreams!
I am not close to breakdown or anything. I just wish they would worry about their life as much, (or half as much would probably be reasonable)as I do. Ah, well. I need to learn that I cannot control and fix everything. I just need to let them live their life and trust that they can figure it out on their own.
I am definitley going on my trip next summer. However, I might have to do only all of the states West of Des Moines, Then hit the East coast the following summer. However, I have been looking forward to this trip for a long time. It's what is getting me through till graduation.
As for your situation, I can't even imagine how you feel. They shouldn't be expecting you to support them. I can understand helping them out from time to time but using all YOUR money to pay THEIR bills. I hope that situation in your life gets better soon *hugs*
And I know how it is to rant about family. I feel like I do that all the time. I love my family but sometimes you just need to rant.
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I also feel like all I do is whine on LJ about things I don't want to talk about with RL people involved, but I'm trying to get better about posting happy things too!
Maybe you could spread your 50 state trip over a few years and visit 15 states at a time :P
I had a friend in college who was in a similar situation, and she ended up with a nervous breakdown, of sorts. I know you're near the end of school, and asking for help is hard, but you should definitely do that. You can do it! And you should be able to have the trip of your dreams!
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I am definitley going on my trip next summer. However, I might have to do only all of the states West of Des Moines, Then hit the East coast the following summer. However, I have been looking forward to this trip for a long time. It's what is getting me through till graduation.
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As for your situation, I can't even imagine how you feel. They shouldn't be expecting you to support them. I can understand helping them out from time to time but using all YOUR money to pay THEIR bills. I hope that situation in your life gets better soon *hugs*
And I know how it is to rant about family. I feel like I do that all the time. I love my family but sometimes you just need to rant.
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