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[bubblebabble]

Due to work demands and trying to get my life more organized in general, I'm swearing off reading LJ for a week, and will likely be on a limited schedule after that for a bit too. So if I don't follow up to that post that was perfect for me, it's nothing personal...and if you've got something Big and you don't think the other half of the Ramkosch

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[bubblebabble]

My general impression has been that any obligation ought to be relative to the value you get out of having other folks read and comment. So that's my communitarian half speaking. Then I also sometimes feel like each person should just post and reply to only what they want, and have no obligations. Maybe that's my poly-religious half, dunno. :-)

[hrafn]

I think there is a sense that, if you want other people to comment on your posts, you should be commenting on theirs. Which is, I suppose, just regular social obligation stuff translated into LJ-land.

Also, "syndicate?" That's spooky, dude!

[quillon]

I think "depends" is accurate, because I think that everyone's going through something in their lives at varying times. Sometimes they want feedback, other times they would prefer for everyone to clam up and just let them vent.

There are times when I simply don't have the time, the patience or the energy to read my friends pages, especially during the second half of the week when I work double shifts. I make an attempt to go back when I've got some time and comment. And then there are some people who take priority over others with my LJ friends readings as I may know them in person, am close friends with them or I find them very fascinating.

I think the expectation that's inherent to comment on entries is dependent on the level of kinship you share with that particular person.

[danger_chick]

I agree totally with what you are saying. Also, I have a few people on my friends list that I would like to unfriend, but hate the message that it sends so I tend to just skip them. Then there are other people who write posts that there really isn't any need to comment on.

It all depends

[curly_chick]

If I see someone fairly regularly and they comment, in person, to things I have discussed, they need not post nor comment in LJ.

If I don't see someone regularly there is still no affirmative obligation for them to post or comment regularly. However, getting comments and/or posts makes it easier for me to keep in touch with people I genuinely really like but don't get to see that often (read: you) However, if I genuinely like them, and they tell me that they are just too busy but they do read, then I don't mind.

If someone is just a voyeur and I am not particularly fond of them, I am wont to keep them on my friend's list.

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[curly_chick]

I still owe you a response to an earlier comment you left me as soon as I figure out some lj finagling and actually sit down and figure out how to do what I want to do.

[ursamajor]

I should comment and respond more than I do, especially with non-locals, since LJ is a primary way that I keep in touch with many people.

I do feel guilty for posting without having responded to big things in other peoples' lives. A little selfish, I guess. Which doesn't stop me from getting behind and doing so, but.