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buster October 27 2009, 20:16:43 UTC
Good question. Meeting Kellianne and the resulting relationship gets 100% credit for switching me from a lost soul who could get married but would prefer to live in separate apartments and thought of babies as "passing the buck" on living an amazing life into someone who actually wanted to merge lives and make crazy babies together.

As for what's intentional or not intentional, my intention remains that I want to live an amazing life full of rich experiences and meaning, it's simply that the strategy has changed on how to get there.

5 years ago I couldn't imagine a strategy as I currently have it working... it seemed like too much of a long shot to find someone that would not only support the search for a rich experience of life full of meaning, but add to it.

I guess it comes down to, I didn't let myself create too fanciful of a vision, I wanted to keep it practical, and in my control, and therefore I had to imagine something different that relied less on luck in love.

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joshc October 28 2009, 02:30:02 UTC
your stuff about brainstorming for a baby remind me of Away We Go. I watched it on a plane and liked it a lot, though a lot of reviewers thought that it was somehow condescending and precious.

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buster October 28 2009, 17:36:03 UTC
Oh, KA and I saw a poster for that at the video store a while ago and wanted to get it but it wasn't out yet. Now it is, and it's at the top o' the queue.

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j_u_d_i October 28 2009, 03:50:59 UTC
Life is funny: there are times when everything comes together beautifully, and other times when everything falls apart (and sometimes both happen at once). I feel like when the good stuff is happening, you need to savor that magical moment and build up your goodwill toward life, like a bank that you can draw from if/when disaster strikes.

It's so great that you had a good role model for fatherhood in your dad -- that's a leg up from a lot of guys.

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buster October 28 2009, 17:38:02 UTC
It is funny that way. It's usually falling apart and coming together at the same time... maybe that's the nature of growing, or whatever it is we do.

I'm trying to savor every moment these days.

Yes, I feel very lucky to have had an awesome father. I realize that it's pretty rare.

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tarvie October 28 2009, 04:23:39 UTC
You're the best and Kellianne's the best and I believe that both of you will do exactly what needs to be done. And change is my favorite, so Good job!

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meggie_irene October 28 2009, 15:11:45 UTC
I agree with Carinna. You both are the best!

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buster October 29 2009, 00:22:05 UTC
If you count the fact that you and Carinna are the best also, we should probably not ever drive in the same car together lest there be an explosion of best-ness.

PS. Was there a movie-watching event on Sunday? How did it go?

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arielmeadow October 28 2009, 14:09:43 UTC
You touch on one of my parenting issues which is the balance between wanting to provide stability/safety/security for my unborn kid VS. wanting to model a life built on independence, creativity, and self-motivation.

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buster October 28 2009, 17:41:41 UTC
Yeah, I want to encourage growth rather than simply be a protector. I'm sure every parent does. How are you going about pursuing this interest? Are there parenting classes or something that teach this particular trait? A book? Or is it just practice?

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arielmeadow October 28 2009, 18:20:41 UTC
I'm thinking about it mostly in regards to the career choices I'll model for my son. Will I go corporate so that he's got health insurance and stable $$ for what he needs? Or will I go indie so that he's got a model of creative entrepreneurial spirit?

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buster October 28 2009, 18:54:26 UTC
Indie, indie, indie! You know that's where you belong anyway.

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