Nothings going to change by the end of the week if you don't tell him it's bothering you. Getting quietly mad and doing the dishes for him isn't teaching him anything and certainly isn't going to prompt him to change his behavior. Be calm and direct and make your point about how unacceptable it is. If he isn't working, how does he pay his rent? Is he on the lease with you?
youre right, i shouldnt bottle it up and explode... i will bring it up by the end of the week, but not in ultimatum style. i just wish he would hold his own.
he is not technically on the lease. he has had enough money to cover our pretty cheap rent... so far... hopefully he will be working soon.
part of writing/typing things out is to help calm me down so i dont make the same written outburst out loud and in person.
Yeah, most people don't respond so well to anger directed at them, heh. Being a Virgo I totally feel you about the dishes. That's one of my big roommate pet peeves. Well, if he's not actually on the lease, then it's technically in your favor to throw down some rules for living there. You don't need to go ultimatum style, but do be firm about how much it bothers you and that it is not an acceptable state for you to live in. Living in community with someone means you'll be respectful and considerate of them, ideally. I don't see how anyone would want to live with someone else if that wasn't the case.
aaannd Hi! =) I check in on here randomly, so much less traffic nowadays. I haven't felt the need/urge to post anything in a while.
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If he isn't working, how does he pay his rent? Is he on the lease with you?
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i will bring it up by the end of the week, but not in ultimatum style.
i just wish he would hold his own.
he is not technically on the lease. he has had enough money to cover our pretty cheap rent... so far... hopefully he will be working soon.
part of writing/typing things out is to help calm me down so i dont make the same written outburst out loud and in person.
...and, HI! i forgot who was around here...
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Well, if he's not actually on the lease, then it's technically in your favor to throw down some rules for living there. You don't need to go ultimatum style, but do be firm about how much it bothers you and that it is not an acceptable state for you to live in. Living in community with someone means you'll be respectful and considerate of them, ideally. I don't see how anyone would want to live with someone else if that wasn't the case.
aaannd Hi! =)
I check in on here randomly, so much less traffic nowadays. I haven't felt the need/urge to post anything in a while.
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