well, one of my goals is to be regularly asking my husband for help in ways that are meaningful and requiring him to be accountable. this probably makes him sound like an ass, which he isn't, but i respond to him not noticing that i need help by engaging in unhelpful behaviors, yk? for you, i can think, maybe not needing to have two journals might be a good long term goal -- that your life does not have the problems of being on disability, etc. i'm not totally sure what to put for goals for you, but i will try to journal on my goals, so you can see what mine are. definitely a tough assignment. are you still making belts, btw? i may be interested, for my sisters.
at first when you mentioned the two journals i wasnt so sure about it, but the more i think about it, the more that is significant. it is represents the way i am doing in my life... the "outside" vs the "inside" sort of. definitely journal about it! i would love to read it. i know that one of my goals is to be able to have a meaningful relationship with a guy someday (beyond just dating), and then i will have to set goals for that as well.
whit, those were some really great goals!! they got me thinking beyond what i had originally. do you mind if i take a few of them and modify them for myself? i like how you have goals broken up into categories too. good idea.
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what i wanted to say was that this list i found really helpful too, which is cool because i wasn't expected to be so struck by how few of those i do not have, but really really do need to focus on.
You have mentioned before that you don't recovery - you want "balance". Meaning, having your eating disorder but being stable at the same time. I think you need to figure out that it's not possible to have both recovery and an eating disorder, and that setting a goal for yourself to be underweight yet stable is NOT recovery.
My goals include Doing full time study again or finding full time employment not shitty casual :/ Playing netball for state again. Teaching others what eating disorders really are. Meeting new people Flirting ( heh not a goal but hell I havent done it in long enough!)
those are awesome goals! i love the flirting one the most. :) seriously though, they made me think. thanks! oh, and do you want to stay on my friends list? i am making a cut for people who are sick of me. lol let me know either way!! i hope you stay!
hmmm.... i really like what people have said already. I think something sort of baby step/pyramid type situation might work well. choosing to do things individually instead of a numbered list might help you focus easily on what you would like to accomplish. It may also feel less overwhelming to tackle one issue at a time, and as you progress to more difficult challenges for yourself, you wil be able to really see how far you are going with recovery. The more you can really feel yourself making progress, the more you will want to move forward.
Physically, "recovery" looks like maintaining your set point for a substantial span of time.
Mentally and emotionally, recovery looks like not only doing the "right" things, but being able to consistently choose to do the right things (regarding food and exercise) with minimal/no obsessing later about what you ate or didn't do.
Some days I'm there, and other days I am not there at all.
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for you, i can think, maybe not needing to have two journals might be a good long term goal -- that your life does not have the problems of being on disability, etc.
i'm not totally sure what to put for goals for you, but i will try to journal on my goals, so you can see what mine are. definitely a tough assignment.
are you still making belts, btw? i may be interested, for my sisters.
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what i wanted to say was that this list i found really helpful too, which is cool because i wasn't expected to be so struck by how few of those i do not have, but really really do need to focus on.
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Doing full time study again or finding full time employment not shitty casual :/
Playing netball for state again.
Teaching others what eating disorders really are.
Meeting new people
Flirting ( heh not a goal but hell I havent done it in long enough!)
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i really like what people have said already.
I think something sort of baby step/pyramid type situation might work well. choosing to do things individually instead of a numbered list might help you focus easily on what you would like to accomplish. It may also feel less overwhelming to tackle one issue at a time, and as you progress to more difficult challenges for yourself, you wil be able to really see how far you are going with recovery. The more you can really feel yourself making progress, the more you will want to move forward.
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Physically, "recovery" looks like maintaining your set point for a substantial span of time.
Mentally and emotionally, recovery looks like not only doing the "right" things, but being able to consistently choose to do the right things (regarding food and exercise) with minimal/no obsessing later about what you ate or didn't do.
Some days I'm there, and other days I am not there at all.
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