Comments | cabearcub: Damaged vs. Destroyed

cabearcub

Damaged vs. Destroyed

Jul 02, 2005 18:24

I wish I could understand why I can look in the mirror and see a decent (almost cute even) man who's at least starting to see glimpses of that strong-willed, strong-hearted, passionate, confidant, proactive, life-challenger he once used to be; and in the next glance see a disgustingly obese, pathetic, needy, unloved, useless, less than human waste ( Read more... )

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atl10sbum July 3 2005, 02:14:44 UTC

FYI...
Serious Note.. You are worth living for!
Superficial Note.. That is one of the hottest icons! ;-)

cabearcub July 7 2005, 04:38:31 UTC

Thanks hon, I know I'm "worth living for"; but sometimes I have to reiterate it to myself. When it comes to things like that, I'm not always so quick in recollection. *G*

chifurbuddy July 3 2005, 07:25:47 UTC

I haven't even read LJ in over a week but I'm glad I did today ( ... )

cabearcub July 7 2005, 04:43:48 UTC

I've long suspected that God overestimates my threshold for pain, much rejuvination prowess. Then again, I'm still here, so who knows *G*

lfkbear July 3 2005, 10:54:08 UTC

You're right, of course. Most of us live somewhere between the two extremes you've noted. I think it's common, though, to have periods during which you fly to the far extreme. I've even come to believe that that it's necessary to fly to those extremes in order to grow and make progress... at least that's the case for me. It's when I'm in my darkest moment that I often find the fortitude to push myself to a better place.

The danger, of course, is that the depression when you're at that low extreme can be debilitating. Reaching out is the key... people around you can see the good in you when you can't. We'll pull you out.

Charles, you've accomplished things in your life (not just weight loss) that have required extraordinary will and strength and a host of other good qualities. They're right there within you. Never forget that.

xo

killerjoe July 3 2005, 12:07:47 UTC

I agree that most of us are in the middle.

Sometimes I look at myself and I think, "Eh, not so bad!" Othertimes, I skip the mirror for days.

All I can offer is commoradory, not an answer.

I hope, in some small what, it is an answers unto itself.

cabearcub July 7 2005, 04:54:31 UTC

If there WAS one specific answer to quandries like that, the world would be a much different place. I always like to hear other perspectives