Messy Parenting - My "superbowl" weekend

[cajunncary]

This is a post that will serve mainly for my cathartic reasoning, so if you care to read on, please do so and if you also care to comment remember that I am but a weak vessel and have no perfection in me, but I love my children and my step children with a love that is not weak nor is it without great passion to see them all at their very best

Comments

[jadeejf]

My kids are all too young, and my experience too minimal to be able to answer your question with actual wisdom, but I do think that bailing kids out continually is problematic... from what I've gathered in observing my FIL's relationship with my BIL, and a cousin's relationship with his parents. I think eventually you have to let go and let kids stand on their own two feet, and hope that you've done a good enough job that they can do it. But even with regards to my own experience, life itself taught me some lessons that my parents tried to impart, but fell on deaf ears, so to speak, until I went through certain experiences on my own. I'm still fairly sheltered and not very savvy with regards to a lot of common sense things, but at this point, that's certainly not the fault of my parents :)

[auroradreams23]

My husband's mother has had a "don't come to me" theory (?) on parenting.
This has helped my husband to be independent. But it has also set him back because he had no help with colleges and no help choosing a job in the AirForce which he joined as a last resort.
She is a knowledgable woman in so many ways. I wish she had done a bit more to help my husband out.

College and that pesky FAFSA are very confusing. We put it off because we don't know what to do. Perhaps you could sit him down and do the first FAFSA with him? I had to have help with the first one myself.

[auroradreams23]

Furthermore, she is offering my brother in law very little input on what degree to pursue. She's knows about jobs and she has insight into her son's talents and abilities that he does not. This is severely frusterating for me to watch.
Still,
She is a great woman and one of my favorite people in this world. Nobody is perfect.

[cajunncary]

So my son and his girlfriend never showed up, sad for my husband, he so loves his son and wants to be an active participant in his life. Daughter/Blondie had a guy friend come over; i think he is just that, a friend, and that makes daddy happy :-) Youngest daughter actually did have a friend come over and they giggled and acted little girlish the whole night

[1carolinabrown]

Don't have all the perfect answers for you but I do have coffee...Call me soon!

[cajunncary]

You r so very sweet, i think i might do that, I'll call you tomorrow and see if we can manage a common link in our schedules

:-)